Introverted people sometimes have a difficult time in our society – and the same applies to extroverts. The following experiences are typical of people who have exactly the right degree of introversion or extroversion for them.
Extraversion is one of the so-called “Big Five” personality traits and is therefore considered a relatively constant character trait. On one side of the extraversion scale is introverted, which roughly means that a person feels very comfortable alone and it takes more energy for them to be in company, and on the other side is extroverted, which roughly means the opposite: that a person draws strength from social situations and doesn’t like being alone too much. Hardly anyone is completely introverted or extroverted, most are somewhere in between. Some use the term “ambivert” to describe a medium level or a relatively equal mix of introversion and extroversion, which may seem particularly desirable as a trait because it suggests balance and equilibrium.
Although extremes and exaggerations are in many cases and areas more problematic than the middle path already praised by Aristotle, when it comes to the character trait of extraversion, it is not crucial whether a person is exactly in the middle of the spectrum or on the edge: if they are If she can – and will – correspond and do justice to nature and lives well with herself and her personality, she can be introverted, ambiverted or extroverted and is still neither too much one nor the other, but just right.
4 signs that you are neither too introverted nor too extroverted
You neither feel lonely in your everyday life nor do you have too little time for yourself
Regardless of whether you have contact with one person once a month or 20 a day: As long as you can cope with it and neither regularly suffer from loneliness nor from being overwhelmed and longing for moments to yourself, your level of extraversion obviously fits your life and everyday life.
You have enough people who are close to you and with whom you can live out different sides of yourself
Are you missing someone who can spend a wild night with you, lure you out of your reserve, have deep conversations or who won’t be angry if you stay quiet for a few weeks? Then the circle of people you have gathered around you appears to be large and diverse enough to meet your personal social needs – and you are neither too introverted nor too extroverted for this circle.
It is rare and almost impossible for one person to be able to provide everything we need in a relationship. Some challenge us, others inspire, others are similar to us and all of this varies and can be mixed up depending on what it is about: leisure activities, emotional world, thinking, job, family life, past and what else defines and concerns us. Sometimes we meet people who give us something that we didn’t know about before and that we didn’t feel we lacked or needed. Such encounters are valuable and enrich our lives, but we can hardly force them. As long as we have a social network that is consistent with our level of extraversion, we usually don’t have to or want to do that anyway.
You rarely find yourself in social situations that you can’t handle
Talking to unknown people, giving lectures, having emotional conversations, having different opinions – living together in a community can put us in a variety of situations and not all of them feel nice and pleasant to us. If you mostly feel comfortable in your everyday social situations, can usually at least get through challenging moments and usually don’t have to make a lot of effort to avoid certain situations that arise because they seem too unbearable to you, you are obviously in the right place the right path for your level of extraversion.
You can’t always decide clearly whether you want to be alone or with people
Do you sometimes find it difficult to judge whether you would like or reject a person? Then, firstly, like most people, you are not 100% extroverted or introverted, and secondly, you have probably never made a decision in the past that was subsequently so catastrophically and clearly wrong for you that it permanently and lastingly affected your intuition on this question clearly influenced. Maybe you’ve sat at home and regretted not going out, and maybe you’ve occasionally been out with people and longed to go home the whole time. But if neither one nor the other experience has led you to always give preference to one side of an ambivalence within you without even noticing the other, it can’t have been too bad. This in turn shows that your behavior and self-assessment match your extroversion and that this balance gives you enough freedom and flexibility to test your limits and, if necessary, renew and change them.
Sources used: studysmarter.de, karrierebibel.de, hackspirit.com