Confidence
This is what happens when you stop doubting yourself
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Self-doubt can be stressful and prevent us from expressing ourselves. What would be the consequences if we could just stop doubting ourselves? Our author has thought about this.
4 things that happen when you stop doubting yourself
You feel more confident
For most people, self-doubt goes hand in hand with uncertainty. In contrast to encouragement and encouraging thoughts such as “I can do it” or “I have the confidence to do that”, we examine ourselves and our abilities with critical impulses such as “can I do that?” question and slow us down – both on an emotional and an action level. If we could stop such self-doubting thoughts, we would no longer have a source from which our insecurity can be fed, and we would become braver and have more confidence in ourselves.
You make more intuitive decisions
In the narrower sense, we clearly associate doubt and skepticism with the rational part of our psyche. They involve thoughts, fears, questions and analyses, everything we associate with concepts such as mind and reason or, neurologically, due to activity in our frontal lobes. With this part we usually dampen the force and impact of our feelings or balance them out, and it also offers us the opportunity to recognize our unconscious reaction patterns and act contrary to them.
If our self-doubt were eliminated, in many situations there would be nothing between our emotions or our intuition and our behavior and our decisions. We would follow impulses without questioning them.
You lose influence over your self-development
When our emotional impulses and intuition freely determine what we do and what we experience, our rational part has less influence on what we experience and learn. And who we are. For example, if we feel wronged and are angry, we would not question whether our anger is appropriate and our perception is the only correct one. We would let it out unchecked and get a response to it – which we in no way consciously controlled or chose.
Without self-doubt, our intuition and our emotional and behavioral patterns would gradually change and deepen based on our experiences, without us ever questioning or consciously deciding what consequences we can and want to live with and what kind of person we want to be.
You lose awareness of your limits
Our self-doubt is often a conscious confrontation or a conscious negotiation of our boundaries and identity. We think about what we can do, question whether we think something we have done or might do is right or wrong. Sometimes we judge our boundaries to be narrower than they are, sometimes wider, and rarely do we come to a clear and conclusive judgment about what is right and what is wrong. But by thinking about it, we strengthen our awareness of our limits and capacities as well as our demands and values. Perhaps we could achieve this in some way through self-reflection that is free of doubt. But she would be poorer by one perspective. And we would probably disappoint ourselves more often.
Conclusion
It can certainly happen that self-doubt becomes a problem for us. Especially when they degenerate and won’t let us go. When they are not balanced by self-confidence and trust in your own intuition and potential. Self-doubt can make us smaller than we are and prevent us from thriving and seizing opportunities. But on the other hand, self-doubt protects us. They promote a more comprehensive self-confidence and image, offer us the opportunity to make more thoughtful decisions and to influence our lives and our personalities.
Maybe it’s often not self-doubt that becomes problematic for us, but rather how we deal with it and the strength and dynamism we give to it. In that case, it would certainly not be a sensible solution to rigorously reject self-doubt.