psychology
5 habits that help you recognize unresolved emotional wounds
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Hardly anyone is safe from being emotionally hurt in life. Almost everyone experiences painful losses or has words thrown at them that cause lasting insecurity. Do you still carry such an unresolved emotional wound with you?
In everyday life we usually want to concentrate on the present and the future. We try to leave the past behind us. After all, it can’t be changed. It only becomes problematic if we have experienced something during this time and have not yet properly processed it.
For example, it could be that you lost a loved one. Instead of fully accepting the grief, you may have simply carried on and this is affecting your current emotional state. Or – this seems less harmful but can also be a long-lasting problem – you had a critical conversation years ago that still makes you feel insecure in your daily activities.
That you have these unprocessed emotional Recognizing the wounds of your past is important in order to be able to deal with them properly. You can read what can help here:
5 habits that indicate unresolved emotional wounds
You compensate via
Overcompensation is a typical behavior to hide something. On the outside, you appear to be super self-confident, disciplined and successful. But behind this, perhaps you are always looking for something to do so that you don’t have to deal with yourself and deeper problems. Or that you are insecure because of an experience you have had, but don’t want to show it and prefer to appear perfectionist and strong-willed.
You find compliments uncomfortable
If you have received stupid comments in the past, for example about your appearance or your performance, this often stays in your memory subconsciously. You think the topic is over and only your opinion counts for you anyway – but then when someone gives you a compliment, you notice that you find it difficult to accept it. You ask yourself whether it is really true or immediately think that it cannot be true. Instead of being happy, (even more) doubts arise.
You are very self-critical
Self-doubt often has its roots in the past. And it goes hand in hand with harsh self-criticism, which can often be used to identify unresolved emotional wounds. Behind this is often the belief that you are not good enough. As a result, you are almost never satisfied with yourself or your achievements. The origin could be that a negative assessment is still gnawing at you.
You are distant in social relationships
If you tend to distance yourself rather than enter into deep relationships, this could also be due to an unresolved past. Have you ever been hurt in a friendship or relationship? Even if it was a long time ago, it leaves its mark – and today it is a sign that you have not yet properly processed what happened.
You neglect yourself
If you always put other people before yourself, you may be thinking that you are not as valuable as others. That you deserve less than them. Why you think this way can be very individual – perhaps someone once gave you this feeling and it stuck with you more than you thought? The same applies, of course, if you take on all kinds of tasks and have no time for yourself. This is detrimental to your physical and mental health. Same question: Why don’t you value yourself enough to put yourself first? The answer probably lies in your past.
Do you feel like you are carrying an unresolved emotional wound with you and don’t know how to deal with it properly? Don’t be afraid to get friends, family and professional help – no one has to deal with painful and formative experiences from the past alone.