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Solution strategies that calm people carry through their lives
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People who seem to remain calm and relaxed while others go into crisis mode and catastrophize tend to use specific strategies to respond to challenges. For example this one.
For very few people, life is relaxed and comfortable. Excitement and crises seem to be part of it, even if we always do everything right. Nevertheless, some people manage to always remain calm and not let anything push them into disaster mode. The way they deal with challenges, their problem-solving and coping strategies, apparently gives them a stability and calmness that some other people only wish for. The following intuitive responses to stressful situations may bring some people closer to fulfilling this desire.
5 typical solution strategies of calm people
Sleep on it
It may sound too simple to be effective, but there are some problems we solve better when we’re asleep than when we’re awake. On the one hand, the time gap that a good night’s sleep gives us plays a role and often leads to our emotions losing intensity and us being able to look at a matter more rationally. On the other hand, while we sleep, we continue to process and negotiate what is bothering us. Since our brain is in a different mode that we have difficulty simulating when we are awake, we in a sense gain a second approach and access to our problem. Sometimes it requires a little self-control and, above all, patience not to react immediately and impulsively to an upsetting event, to bring it up and get used to it, but it can be worth it and help you to feel more calm.
Pareto principle
Calm people usually use the Pareto principle, which could perhaps be more aptly called “courage to leave a gap”, especially for those who have never heard of it and who do not do it consciously. The Pareto principle states that in many cases, 20 percent of effort can achieve 80 percent of the best possible result – which means that the remaining 20 percent requires disproportionately more effort than to achieve a result at a high and often sufficient level. Taking this into account – whether consciously or unconsciously – usually saves a lot of stress and effort and promotes a more relaxed, calm mind.
Look back
For some people, looking back helps them stay calm in difficult situations. Because they see that they have survived worse. In everyday life, we are usually not constantly aware of how resilient and resilient we are, how well we can improvise and deal with consequences. When we find ourselves in a precarious situation, we focus on what could happen, what we have to deal with, and how much we need to be with each other – and completely ignore what we are capable of. However, routinely reminding yourself of this when you are stressed, for example by taking a moment to remember, can provide self-confidence and calm.
Zoom out
Relativization is certainly not always and in every situation the healthiest panacea for getting rid of problems – but it can relax a lot inside to look at your own situation in a larger context and see that it is not so huge and catastrophic is how she feels. At least not for 8 billion other people in this world. We don’t change or improve anything when we change our perspective and attitude towards it, but how we feel about it may change. And if zooming out and putting things into perspective helps us to calm down, which might be good for us, perhaps the result puts the method into perspective again, so to speak.
Radical acceptance
For calm people, everything doesn’t always have to make sense, fit together and be clarified. They can accept that some things are as they are without understanding them. They can accept that some things can be good and bad at the same time, that they need variety and routine, time for themselves and company. They accept that some relationships are more complex than their limited cognitive capacities allow them to grasp. And they trust that there is a truth in this on which their life and happiness rests.