Psychology: 5 secrets of people who are rarely disappointed

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5 secrets of people who are seldom disappointed (by others)

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Getting disappointed usually feels pretty lousy. You can read here what people have in common, to whom this very seldom happens.

Disappointments are part of life. Sometimes we disappoint ourselves, sometimes life disappoints us and sometimes other people disappoint us. We cannot prevent this entirely – and we do not have to, because we learn from disappointments, and if only we can cope with them. Even so, disappointments hurt, so it would be great not to be disappointed all the time. But how do you do that without closing yourself off? The following characteristics apply to many people who tend to be less likely to be disappointed by others (or by themselves) – and yet still be able to hope, believe in the good and be able to open up.

5 secrets of people who are rarely disappointed by others

1. You believe patterns more than words.

Most people have good intentions and don’t want harm to anyone. But our intentions are neither the only nor the most powerful force that guides our actions. For example, behavior or thought and evaluation patterns are often very difficult to break and sometimes they prevent us from doing what we actually want – or what we have promised someone. People who understand this and who accept and respect themselves and others, including the patterns that belong to their personality, can usually classify words, excuses and declarations of intent well. In this way you protect yourself from unrealistic expectations and disappointments.

2. You take warning signs seriously.

After a disappointment, we often see in retrospect that it was actually predictable. But when we want to believe something, we tend to ignore warning signs. Much like we doubt clear facts when they contradict our opinion. Those who generally remain open to red flags – for example, too good to be true, see others guilty or speak badly of others – and take them seriously, are usually less likely to be disappointed.

3. You trust your intuition.

Not all, but many people have very good intuition when it comes to deciding who to (or should) expect from whom. However, following it is difficult for many – often because their head and conscience stand in their way. Certainly principles are like In case of doubt for the: the defendant: n makes sense in court and in a legal system. But they don’t have to stop us, us when in doubt for our feeling to decide. If you listen to your own intuition and your inner voice calling for caution, you may not always do justice to everyone else – but at least you will.

4. You differentiate between potential and reality.

To see what could be, what potential there is in other people, for example, is a strength. It shows creativity, imagination and empathy. However, hoping or assuming that the best opportunities (or should be) always exhausted to the full bears a high risk of disappointment. Nobody can All get out of yourself what is in him. Anyone who decides to love reality, regardless of the used and unused potential, minimizes this risk for themselves.

5. You let go in time.

The very serious disappointments that really blow us away are often announced by minor disappointments or significant incidents. Often, however, we stick to our hope and good faith – sometimes because we secretly think that this could change something. Many people who are less likely to be disappointed know that they cannot control everything and are therefore more willing to let go when the time comes.

Sources used: psychologytoday.com, healthyrelationshiptips.org

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