Psychology: 5 signs you’re more confident than you think you are

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5 signs you’re more confident than you think you are

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You think your self-confidence isn’t that great because you’re not an extroverted “doer type”? These five traits are much more important in recognizing how confident a person is.

What actually makes a self-confident person? Being able to give a speech in front of hundreds of people without any problems? Selling yourself perfectly in a job interview or on a date? In reality, other qualities are much more important.

The fact is: many of us underestimate how great our self-confidence is. Because we often equate that with loudness and external strength. It often shows on a much more subtle level how confident someone is. Above all, dealing with others is an important indicator of this. These five characteristics are typical of self-confident people – and are often misunderstood.

5 Signs of Healthy Self-Confidence

1. You easily ask others for help.

Asking for help is a sign of weakness? On the contrary! Often only really self-confident people dare to ask for support if they can’t get on on their own. Because they know what they can and can’t do. And not being able to do something is anything but embarrassing. Rather, it is a sign of strength to admit that you need help with something. It doesn’t matter whether it’s the tax return, cooking or an emotional topic.

2. You’re good at being alone.

Humans are social beings – we need caregivers and other people around us. But it is just as important to be able to spend time with yourself. Because if you can’t stand your own company, you’re usually not as self-confident as you might be. So if you can handle, even need, me-time on a regular basis, that’s a clear sign of how confident you are.

3. You can admit mistakes.

Confidence has nothing to do with perfection. Anyone who believes that self-confident people always do and say the right thing is wrong. Because we all make mistakes. If you can reflect on yourself and admit when you’ve done something wrong, you’re probably pretty strong. Because it takes a lot of self-confidence to first admit your mistakes to yourself – and then to apologize in front of others.

4. You set clear boundaries.

Being able to say no is an important mental health trait. So if you manage to set yourself apart and say clearly when you don’t want or can’t do something, you’re probably more confident than you think. Honoring your own needs is a clear sign of true strength — because it has nothing to do with persevering no matter how you feel about it.

5. You don’t seek the limelight.

There’s nothing wrong with enjoying the attention of others. But if you want to be the center of attention all the time and need validation from outside, you’re probably struggling with pretty low self-esteem. Because those who are really self-confident don’t need the limelight (all the time), but know that the value of a person lies on the inside – and not on how he:she is perceived from the outside.

Sources used: psychologytoday.com, forbes.com

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