psychology
5 things we can no longer let ourselves be talked into
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Learning to trust yourself is not that easy when people are all happy to add their two cents. We’ll start small and tackle 5 things that we won’t let ourselves be talked into anymore.
Do you remember when the curtains in the neighboring house used to move treacherously when someone else’s… Was there a car in front of it? What if the neighbor came home with a new partner – or maybe a new hedgehog hairstyle? Whether in the village or in the city: people have always tended to evaluate each other in a certain way.
In a fast-moving time like today, everyday life is characterized by changes. Nevertheless, the underlying cause of change, namely doing something differently, often still causes uproar – even if it’s just the swaying curtain in the house next door or the raised eyebrow of your colleague. You can experience this in almost every area of life: starting with a simple change in clothing style and ending with your partner.
Now, not everyone likes to be the center of attention and enjoy the attention, whether positive or negative. Rather, many avoid them, not wanting to attract attention, wanting to be different, preferring to fly under the radar. But wouldn’t it be a shame if other people’s opinions caused our personal development to fall by the wayside? After all, a caterpillar doesn’t stay in the cocoon just because it’s afraid of the talk of other reptiles when it suddenly flies up as a butterfly.
What we want to express is: let people talk. That’s easier said than done, yes. But if you start with a few small areas of your life where you just listen to yourself, that’s enough. Because we quickly gain enough self-confidence from the positive feeling that arises from this to write more and more things on the “Don’t let me talk you into it” list. Almost happens by itself, I promise!
Trust yourself: 5 things we won’t let ourselves be talked into
haircut
Do you finally want to try out the pixie short hairstyle? Do it! How often do we hear plaintive “Ohhhs” and “Aaahs” next to the classic: “But you have such beautiful hair, what a shame!” Our hair is beautiful above all because we can do whatever we want with it. And if we ever use the toilet, it’s not that bad – it grows back after all. The only exception: The hairdresser we trust can provide support and advice. But that was it.
The dream of the house
Who says you have to get married, have children and build a house in your mid-30s? No one. Many people still have this ideal of life solidified in our heads. Of course, the classic way of life of starting a family with a single-family home and a nice front garden is an option for many – but not a must. By the way, your own lifestyle doesn’t have to make anything but ourselves happy. Whether with cats or children, friends or family, alone or in the community, that is up to each person.
raising children
Speaking of family… Anyone who has a child is suddenly inundated with parenting advice. People are happy about the first tips and tricks, but a limit is quickly crossed and it becomes invasive. The same applies here: take a deep breath, don’t compare, trust in yourself. Perfect family happiness looks different for every person – that’s why you can only find it yourself.
Clothing style
Have you heard it yet? Skinny jeans are said to be dead. Yes, really! We’ve just gotten used to them. At some point we will reach an age where we are still happy about trends and inspiration – but have also found our own style. That is a good thing. And if our favorite pieces include the zebra leggings, the vintage floral blouse or the skinny jeans, we still wear them even when they are no longer trendy. By the way, there is no such thing as too funky, as long as you feel comfortable. It would be boring if we all looked the same.
Choice of partner
How often do you find yourself comparing your relationship to others? Or before the first meeting with family and friends, worry about whether your partner will really fit in? And does everyone like it? As long as the person is good for us, we would say: It really doesn’t matter what others think. By the way, love doesn’t always follow conventional paths and when two people find each other who might not fit together at first glance, we are happy – and ignore gossipers.