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5 early warning signs that you are slipping into emotional abuse
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You met someone and fell head over heels in love. You’re on the same wavelength. But at some point the facade of your counterpart begins to crumble. These five warning signs will help you know that you are being emotionally abused.
The beginning of a relationship is usually harmonious and characterized by racing hearts. But at this point the two people don’t really know each other – that takes time. Often the habits of the new love only crystallize when they live together. This is not unusual as long as it is just harmless quirks.
However, some people hide not only the fact that they leave their socks around, but also their real face. Only gradually do they show their toxic behavior. The The risk of getting into an abusive relationship has increased significantly in the age of online dating. Because feelings are often already involved before a face-to-face meeting takes place.
In the early stages of a relationship, abusers are able to hide the obvious warning signs such as angry, controlling, possessive, jealous, or violent behavior. Here are five very early warning signs of potential emotional abuse that are harder to cover up.
Five early warning signs that you are slipping into emotional abuse
1. He: she’s never to blame
You should stay away from people who take no responsibility for their actions and who always look to others to blame. Mistakes are human and also a way of learning. But instead of using mistakes to improve, they blame others and enjoy the temporary feeling of their supposed moral superiority.
So-called blame shifting is extremely toxic and will hurt you very much. Even if your partner initially blames others for any mishaps, one thing is certain: sooner or later the blame will fall on you.
2. Deception
At the beginning of a relationship, most people try to present themselves in the best possible light. To a certain extent, this is not necessarily objectionable. But some people cross a line, deliberately use deceptions. Whether it is the exaggeration of certain qualities (intelligence, talents, successes) or outright lying, deception is a form of deception. And Cheating shows a low level of self-esteemthat can eventually turn into disrespect for you.
3. Resentment
Disapproving people are not just jealous, they go one step further: because envy can also serve as an incentive, because one wants to own or achieve the same thing as the envied person. However, resentment involves a very great deal negative attitudethat manifests itself in destructive behavior.
Disgruntled people are so much fixated on their own point of viewthat they become insensitive to the rights and perspectives of the people closest to them.
4. Pettiness
Turning a mosquito into an elephant on a regular basis is another warning sign. People who abuse their counterparts emotionally are often very petty, using an unimportant or non-existent problem to get you involved in an argument. His main concern is: her, above all, jto criticize every little thing about you. Often a feeling of superiority is associated with this: Your counterpart belittles you with “criticism” in order to feel better, superior.
5. Entitlement
After the initial charm of being in love wears off, people who believe they deserve special treatment and consideration will See their feelings and desires as more important than yours. If you reduce your needs and come to terms with the fact that they are not very important, it won’t do you any good in the long run – it can even lead to depression.
Source used: psychologytoday.com