Psychology: 7 things we are often unjustly ashamed of

7 qualities we are embarrassed about, although we should be proud of them

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Are you ashamed that you hardly come to life? Don’t worry, we know of a few characteristics that you no longer need to be embarrassed about from now on …

In all honesty: Finding yourself is not that easy! On the one hand, many people are afraid of being average – because they believe that makes them interchangeable (which is of course not true, after all, even the model normal is something special and irreplaceable for his friends and loved ones). On the other hand, we are immediately looked at when we are different and attract attention, and we are told from an early age how we have to be in order to be respected and to be successful.

No wonder that we are constantly pretending to be and ashamed of various qualities that have at one point been established as embarrassing in the collective opinion. But wouldn’t it be pretty annoying if we spent our lives reversing our poles or getting used to supposedly embarrassing things – which could actually make us happy and are actually good? In any case, the following characteristics are far less embarrassing than many people think …

7 qualities we are embarrassed about even though they make us happy

1. Naivety

Naive people tend to be considered stupid – but what exactly is so stupid about becoming one? filial good faith to preserve and basically simplify things instead of complicating them? Isn’t it rather wise to hold onto a trait that makes us happier, easier, and more optimistic about life? We end up disappointed one way or another – even if we are brooding skeptics …

2. Selfishness

Honestly: We’re all egocentric anywaywhy be ashamed of it? Those who admit their own egoism and deal with it openly make it easier for themselves and others to live with it. In addition, selfishness and compassion, care and consideration are not mutually exclusive. On the contrary: Only those who take care of themselves can also be there for other people. False modesty is arguably a lot worse than honest selfishness …

Signs that you don't love yourself: A young woman is hiding under her sweater

3. volatility

Saying A today and B tomorrow is often seen as weak, immature, incompetent and untrustworthy. But things change overnight, and not just sometimes, but all the time. Why shouldn’t you be allowed to adjust your opinion if you know something today that you didn’t know yesterday? Why should one hold on to A when B now seems to be much more meaningful or attractive? Isn’t life an experimentwhere you can make a mistake, try it out, turn around and even start from scratch if necessary?

4. Emotionality

We are enlightened, so it’s time to let the feelings out again! Emotions are our natural drive and – if we understand our feelings – too an excellent internal compass. So please: No inhibitions about crying, showing joy in front of outbursts of anger, or giving “felt right” as the reason. A feeling is the best argument anyway! And if everyone does it, at some point we will no longer find it embarrassing …

5. Uncertainty

Another problem: As soon as we express doubts or admit that we are not entirely sure of something (or of ourselves), we are considered incompetent and not to be “used”, so we cover up our insecurities – almost constantly. But how can we, as an individual with a very limited wealth of experience, ever be absolutely sure about something?? Wouldn’t it be much more sensible and trustworthy to be honest and simply admit uncertainties? Well, the same applies here: It would be much easier if everyone participated …

6. Pride

Some are afraid of appearing conceited and boastful, others believe that the things they are proud of are just small things that actually do not justify pride – the result is the same in both cases: many are ashamed to be proud, and suppress their pride. Too bad that this particular feeling closely with our self-confidence and we even have to be proud so that we can strengthen our self-esteem …

7. Frugality

High demands, ambition, constant growing beyond oneself – all of this is considered to be honorable and admirable and is often so glorified that sometimes you don’t even dare to admit that you are actually really fine with what you have. But honestly: It’s nice when someone is happy with their annual summer vacation on the Baltic Sea and doesn’t have the urge to jet around the world like the influencers 365 days a year! Why live a life in the fast lane when it doesn’t lead to your goal after all? Isn’t it much more pathetic or sadder to be an unhappy winner than a happy apparent (!) Loser …?