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8 sentences with which we give each other self-confidence
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That’s the thing with self-confidence – we all strive for it, but only achieve it with difficulty. Why don’t we help each other?
But in everyday life it’s not that easy to always pay attention to yourself, stand up for yourself and – well – go through the world confidently. Rather, we are constantly confronted with new challenges that can certainly be unsettling. What helps us is the faith to grow through them, to get through them and to emerge stronger from them. What doesn’t help is comparisons.
From the outside, other people often appear to us to be much more self-confident than we are. Our colleague is already wearing the new fashion trend with flying colors, while we are still afraid of attracting attention. The friend masters the presentation without a shred of excitement, and we have sleepless nights. And our best friend is adamant about 20 percent more when negotiating our salary, after we didn’t even dare to ask for more money. That’s the tricky thing about a lack of self-confidence: it doesn’t exactly give us courage, but rather convinces us that others can handle everything better.
That’s why we’re here. Every person, no matter how strong they may seem, experiences phases of uncertainty over the course of their lives. This is completely normal and human. If we know this, we can stop putting each other on pedestals – and instead fight together. By boosting each other’s self-confidence when we need it.
We don’t become more self-confident overnight. Rather, we can constantly give ourselves a small self-confidence boost by saying certain sentences to ourselves more often. They may sound obvious, but they are not – because they leave a subconscious effect.
Would you like an example? With these eight sentences we can strengthen each other’s self-confidence in everyday life.
8 sentences that make us more self-confident
1. “I understand that”
The devil of low self-esteem sits on our shoulder and whispers to us that we would certainly be wrong. Exaggerate with emotions. We worry too much. The three simple words “I understand that” subconsciously create our own legitimacy for our behavior: I am right.
2. “You’re absolutely right”
In discussions, there’s nothing wrong with changing your mind – if the other person has changed your mind. And our self-confidence likes to hear that we are right.
3.”You’re allowed to feel like this”
Why am I so nervous and others aren’t? Why does this make me sad when others are totally cool with it? Every feeling is allowed. And if we do forbid ourselves, it’s good to hear these words from outside.
4. “This is not a given”
Our talents. What we do for others. How we react in certain moments. All of these things make us who we are, but we often take them for granted. If someone does something that we find good and outstanding, we can tell him: her.
5. “I admire your work”
Appreciation is also the key word in this sentence. One of your best friends is an architect, you don’t understand a single word of her designs and just watch in fascination as she designs an entire house? Feel free to tell her that you admire her! By the way, this also applies to your colleague, who is a mother and, in addition to her everyday work, also manages the household and raises the children on her own. Hats off. A little praise never hurts.
6. “Thanks for sharing this with me”
We like to keep uncertainties to ourselves. It’s so relieving to get rid of them – and so empowering to say that they are being heard.
7. “Can we talk about this together again?”
There’s a lot of “I need your opinion” in it, and that’s a really nice compliment. It shows that we value the person in front of us with their opinions – and that he/she is an enrichment to our lives.
8. “Your perspective helped me a lot”
Do you know those conversations with people after which everything becomes clearer to you? Who showed you a completely new perspective – and really helped you move forward? Out with it. It is balm for the soul to hear that you have helped others. And self-confidence increases by three points. Jackpot!