psychology
8 signs that you are underestimating yourself
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Are you one of those people who don’t trust themselves enough? Too bad. You’re not doing yourself or anyone else a favor. We’ll tell you immediately why and how you recognize self-underestimation.
Sure, people who overestimate themselves are unsympathetic and can fall pretty low. But seriously: a lot of self-underestimation isn’t much better either. Those who drastically underestimate themselves are not only taking the chance to develop and live freely and carefree. Self-underestimators: because of their insecurity and reluctance, they withhold something from their surroundings, which would actually be an enrichment for which you are in the world and which only you can give to others – your unique, irreplaceable contribution. So in truth it is – sorry that we are saying this so hard now – egotistical, when you consider yourself too unimportant and do nothing to overcome your own underestimation of yourself. So if you know these things about yourself, it is high time to work on your self-image and self-esteem.
8 signs that you are underestimating yourself
1. You hardly ask any of your questions.
Ask questions? Not your thing at all! Just because you didn’t notice something, stop the whole thing? Or harass others with something that interests you? Never! You rarely find what you ask yourself is important enough to share with others. But now we have a question: How often have you seen someone else ask exactly what you pinched and do yourself and others a favor? Even!
2. Your goals are not particularly ambitious.
What do you want to achieve in your life? What is the result? Not to be a burden to anyone? Yes, it sounds like you don’t trust yourself about anything. But let’s be honest: don’t you admire others for their courage and ambitions, even if they sometimes fail?
3. You don’t believe people that they love you or mean their praise.
Of course you get good feedback sometimes and there are some people who like to spend time with you and seem to love you. But people are wrong – and you always expect that one day you will be blown up and everyone else will recognize who you really are. Hm. If you want to make yourself small, okay. But maybe you should start to trust others and take them a little more seriously ?!
4. You play down your feelings.
Half so wild! That’s OK! I’m okay! Sentences like these are part of your standard repertoire when you are having problems or not feeling well. Yes, not to be a burden to anyone, the motto of your life. But don’t you think it’s nice when you can take care of someone you love? And feel like you are needed? Can you think about it …
5. If you succeed in something, it is mostly luck.
Somehow you already know that you are not the biggest loser under the sun. But first and foremost, you’re pretty lucky. For example, you can’t help that you’re halfway clever and have one or the other talent. So no need to be proud of you. Okay – everyone is just lucky if something works for them. Or do you admire other people for what they can do thanks to their skills? Why do you think they can be proud of themselves but you can’t?
6. You mostly relate to others.
“He thinks”, “she said” and “one assumes” … already practical to be able to relate to others, especially if you think you have nothing important to say yourself. The only problem: You are cheating the world out of a unique perception, position and perspective that no one else can give it: YOURS!
7. You shy away from challenges.
Assume responsibility, volunteer for special tasks – when it comes to volunteering, you first take a step back. Because you assume that others will do better than you anyway. But you already know that everyone else only learns from mistakes and failures and grows with challenges, right ?! If so, of course you have a right to decline your chance …
8. You almost never give feedback.
“The cooperation could have gone better if …”, “Wow, you have a great figure!”, “You are definitely on the wrong trip!” – that’s what you think, but don’t say. Who is interested in your feedback and your opinion? In most cases it is not particularly original anyway and the person has probably long been aware of it. AHA OK. But even if: Don’t you happen to be grateful when others share their point of view with you, be it just to confirm you?
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