Psychology: Clean up the soul – 6 habits that you can confidently clean out

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Clean up your soul: 6 habits you can confidently get rid of

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What applies to our closet also applies to our soul: If we don’t clean things up regularly, a lot of garbage accumulates. To name just six examples.

Many people started the big clean-up during the corona crisis. Closets, drawers and even entire rooms – finally get rid of all the chaos that has accumulated over the years of being busy.

Similar to how cupboards and drawers fill up over time, our psyche can also become quite disordered if we don’t go in and tidy up from time to time (after all, it’s not said for nothing that the apartment is a reflection of the soul … ). Partly unprocessed feelings accumulate there, partly habits that may have been useful or obvious in a certain phase, but tend to harm us in the long term and alienate us from ourselves.

That’s why we advocate: At the latest when the cupboards are clean, the soul is on it! Regardless of whether we are sitting at home because of a pandemic or not – because we can clean up our souls anytime and anywhere. What habits should we definitely rid them of? We have six suggestions…

Clean up your soul: 6 habits that you can confidently sort out

1. Putting things off until later

It doesn’t matter whether it’s something you want to do or something that’s bothering you: don’t wait until it “fits” but make sure you can do it as quickly as possible – from far too many ” Eventually” will eventually become a “never”…

2. (Against yourself) Fighting

Defeat the weaker self, discipline yourself, pull yourself together, be strong – why are we constantly in fight mode? We spend so much time competing with others or fighting ourselves that zest for life and joy are often pushed into the background. In fact, it should be exactly the opposite.

3. Want to control everything

The more we can control, the safer we feel. With control we associate power, strength, independence and freedom. Small problem: In truth, we all have very little control. Our health, relationships, economic situation – all of this is only in our hands to a limited extent and can theoretically be completely beyond our control at any time. We are dependent on our fellow human beings, the system we live in, fate and we constantly have to make decisions without knowing all the parameters. But first of all, that’s completely okay and secondly, it doesn’t mean that we’re not free – with the right attitude, the realization that we can’t (and don’t have to!) control everything can even relieve us. And we can definitely control our attitude.


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4. Always work

We tend to always want to function, keep going, and move forward, no matter what crisis we’re going through. But why actually? Are we humans or machines? Later we remember the moments when we felt something – not the ones when we were functioning.

5. Feeling guilty when you’re doing “undeservedly” well

Newsflash: You don’t always have to earn everything. Neither the piece of cheesecake for dessert nor the fact that you are fine. Life is a gift that nobody who receives it deserves. Some get a luxury version, others a version with stumbling blocks and challenges. Whether you think that’s fair or not, the fact that those with the luxury version feel guilty doesn’t make the obstacle course any easier for the others either.

6. Divide the world into good and bad

Body shapes, lifestyles, opinions – we tend to judge everything and place it somewhere on a scale between good and bad. That’s why we often compare ourselves to other people to find out where we stand and what we can do to “improve” ourselves. But as much as we like to simplify things, the truth is that the world is far too complex to fit on one scale. People are incomparable, every opinion has a background and lifestyles must be different – and “good” and “bad” are arbitrary categories strongly shaped by society. Instead of judging and classifying, we can try to perceive the world in our own way. But as the psychologist Carl Gustav Jung said: “Thinking is difficult, that’s why most people judge.”

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