psychology
8 typical problems of people who did not experience enough love as a child
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Anyone who experienced too little affection in childhood often finds it difficult to assert themselves throughout their lives – and are usually very familiar with these eight problems…
It’s like this: We are all different and are shaped by so many factors and influences that nobody could ever predict or explain our behavior with certainty. But in one point we all tick the same way: We need love and appreciation, especially as children. Because if you don’t feel loved as a child, you often find it difficult to value yourself for the rest of your life. And that often makes itself felt in the affected people in a similar way.
Typical problems of people who did not experience enough love as a child
1. You have a hard time setting boundaries
People with low self-esteem often find it very difficult to say “no” and to make it clear that something is bothering them, that they don’t want to do something or that they can’t do it.
2. They feel guilty when they think about themselves
On the other hand, they immediately feel guilty when their own needs and interests come up. Most of the time, they let others go first and take a back seat themselves.
3. You have trouble opening up
You can hardly look into the cards, let alone into the soul. If you get too close to them, they tend to withdraw even more – because the fact that someone is interested in them makes them suspicious.
4. You are very anxious
A wrong decision, an embarrassing question, public transport – people with low self-esteem are disproportionately afraid of many things. Relationship anxiety is also not untypical. And if they don’t do something about it, it tends to get worse over time…
5. You have trouble trusting others
Why should others wish them well? If you don’t love yourself, you assume that others won’t either.
6. You are very afraid of rejection
reach out to others? Don’t! That only leads to rejection, which in turn leads to disappointment. Anyone who did not experience enough love and affection as a child usually lacks the courage to approach others as an adult.
7. You feel lonely and isolated
There is no one they care about, care about, or confide in — believe she!
8. You have a propensity for unhealthy relationships
Even if their partner treats them badly and the relationship doesn’t do them any good, people with low self-esteem often hold on because they don’t believe they deserve anything better.