psychology
6 problems faced by people who were spoiled too much as a child
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Parents mean well when they pamper their children, but in the end they pay the receipt. These six problems are typical of spoiled people.
A lot of parents would love to read their children’s every wish from their eyes and pamper them to the last line. But in much the same way that receiving too much praise as a child can damage a person’s self-worth, even spoiled children can find it difficult to manage their lives later on. Here are six typical problems people face when their parents say, “Yes, of course, honey!” got to hear …
Problems of spoiled people
1. You cannot deal with defeat.
If we don’t learn as children to put up with setbacks and disappointments, it hits us all the harder as adults when something doesn’t go the way we want it to.
2. You give up quickly.
Sooner or later we all get into a situation where we have to fight for something. But if you as a child always got everything by yourself (i.e. from your parents) you never had to learn to fight – and as an adult you will therefore tend to throw in the towel when there is resistance.
3. You cannot cope with criticism or rejection.
A rejection after the interview? A basket? It doesn’t even exist! What morons decided that! They have no idea! So it’s not me … Yes, this is how whoever was Mum’s Little Prince as a child could react. Problem: He’s missing a good opportunity to reflect on himself – and to grow!
4. You take happiness and success for granted.
Spoiled people don’t know anything else than always getting their way. And so they never learn to really appreciate positive things. Sad, because the ability to be happy (even about little things) brings many beautiful moments of happiness into our lives.
5. You cannot take the initiative.
Why show commitment when everything works by itself? People who only had to say “beep” as children to achieve something often tend to wait for others to take care of things and sort things out.
6. You are dependent and quickly overwhelmed.
Whaaaas? Do I have to register for the office and my new place of residence myself? When should I still do all of this? If everything was taken away from you as a child – how can you suddenly have everything under control when you are on your own? No wonder that pampered people are often barely resilient and quickly get into swimming. You really can’t blame them …
But we have one consolation for everyone who was spoiled by their parents and now has to deal with the consequences: What the parents missed, reality catches up faster than we would like. And luckily we learn new things all our lives and adapt to the demands that are placed on us. Even when we were spoiled as children.