psychology
4 secrets of people who are in harmony with themselves
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Internal conflicts? Doesn’t seem to be a problem for some people. You can read here how you can live in harmony and harmony with yourself.
There are certainly many different ways to come to terms with yourself and achieve a somewhat stable, inner peace. The following points may help some people find their own.
4 secrets of people who are in harmony with themselves
1. You appreciate what is
The philosopher Friedrich Nietzsche once said: “By doing, we let go.” By traveling to the sea, we leave the mountains behind us. By studying philosophy we remain laymen in medicine and chemistry. By eating pizza tonight, we’re skipping pasta, fried potatoes and cheese sandwiches. In fact, we do very, very little in our lives and leave an almost infinite number of possibilities unrealized.
On the one hand, this can certainly worry, stress or sadden us. But on the other hand it cannot be avoided. We will always leave much more than we do. Therefore, we might as well choose a constructive perspective and recognize what is as something precious. Given all the many possibilities that could have been but never will be or were, reality is something very special, almost magical. It may not always be sunny or light. She may sometimes lead us to wish or imagine that she were different. But it is what we really experience. And celebrating and appreciating them for that can create a sense of harmony and peace for some people.
2. You set your own goals
Whether we are aware of it or not and whether we want it or not – our goals have an importance for our lives that should not be underestimated. Short-term goals that relate to the next few days can motivate us and give us moments of happiness, while long-term goals that we use to plan the next one to two years give us support, orientation and a feeling of satisfaction. As human beings, we feel a natural need to organize and shape our future, and doing so has a positive impact on our health. The “New York Times” authors Martin Seligman and John Tierney therefore suggested in an op-ed that the term “Homo prospectus” be used instead of “Homo sapiens”.
Now some goals arise automatically from the course of our lives: finish school, get an apprenticeship, complete training and so on. But at some point we come to a point where we can decide for ourselves what is important to us: Do we want a partnership? Or children? Do we want to have a career and be successful professionally? Or do we want to be as involved in work as possible and have energy for other things? In our society we can now choose between very different models of life and accordingly our personal goals can sometimes differ significantly from the goals of most other people.
Understanding this, being aware of this freedom and setting one’s own goals and values instead of following standard social paths can give some people the feeling of having found their inner balance and center.
3. They care for and respect their bodies
Our body is the foundation of everything we think, feel and do. It is not just a tool or means of transportation that gets us through life, but the source of our identity and personality. If we don’t get enough nutrients or sleep, exercise too much or too little, ignore symptoms such as pain or other abnormalities or suppress them with medication, then this affects our emotions and thoughts. When our body is stressed, we cannot be balanced and relaxed. Treating your own body with kindness and care can therefore lead to an improvement in inner balance and harmony for many people, especially those who primarily place demands on their bodies.
4. You allow yourself to have bad phases
Here’s another real secret about people who are in harmony with themselves: They are not non-stop. And don’t expect it either. Sometimes they are desperate, dissatisfied and disoriented; sometimes they go through phases in which they are upset about things that in other phases they can accept calmly. Instead of doubting themselves or telling themselves that they have failed in life, they recognize dark episodes as a natural part of their history and calmly and calmly look for measures that they can take to feel better again soon.
In fact, scientists assume that as human creatures we are not designed to be constantly satisfied and balanced (you can find out more about this in our article “That’s why we can’t stay satisfied.” And that acceptance of such fluctuations can help us deal with them in a healthier, more successful and more level-headed way.