A shaman tells
These are the 4 biggest pitfalls in the relationship
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Whether a relationship works depends on many factors. The shaman Stefan Limmer knows which things she often fails.
In order to have a successful relationship, we have to start with ourselves: Find the connection to our own self, allow feelings, deal with fears … there is a lot to do!
In his book "Love heavenly & fuck divinely"explains the shaman Stefan Limmer, how one finds in the partnership to a happy coexistence, devotion and ecstasy. He also names four typical thought traps that have a negative impact on the relationship.
1. The wrong expectations
We all envision certain things when we go into a relationship. What should the partner be like, what should the everyday relationship look like? We often have general expectations that society exemplifies as desirable. The shaman recommends: "In order to be able to lead a really fulfilling relationship, it is first of all necessary to find your very own vision of a relationship beyond all conventions and influences."
2. We have no connection with ourselves
A lot of people have the problem that they don't really know themselves. They have no real connection to their self and are not aware of their strengths. But that is exactly what makes someone capable of relational. According to Limmer, it helps to know your personal sources of strength and to become aware of what the innermost needs of a relationship.
3. We let our fears guide us
Regardless of whether we are afraid of the world outside or of our feelings: "Instead of courageously facing oneself and the world, repression, compensation and withdrawal dominate"says the shaman. Our fears cloud us completely. It goes without saying that this also blocks us in the relationship, we miss a lot of nice things and quickly go wrong ways. As they say: Fear is never a good advisor!
4. We live in the past
Instead, we should focus on living in the here and now. The mistake that many make: They take negative experiences from the past with them into the current relationship and cannot draw a line. "Thoughts are constantly revolving around situations that are long gone", said Limmer. It goes so far that we repeat traumatic experiences even in the new relationship.
Work on yourself
In his book, Stefan Limmer explains how one can free oneself from the four pitfalls with the help of rituals. This can be achieved, for example, through various mindfulness exercises, which are explained in more detail in the book.
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author Stefan Limmer is a building biologist, alternative practitioner, seminar leader and initiated shaman. In addition to naturopathy, he has specialized in shamanic healing methods. In hisbook"Love heavenly & fuck divinely" (14.99 euros, arkana) it shows the way to a fulfilled love. The author on the web: www.schamanenpfad.de