Does a relationship require work? Might be! But when you work well together as a couple, some things should feel easy. To name just nine examples…
Regardless of whether it is friendship, family or partnership, in order for relationships to work, we always have to do something and invest in them. Find compromises, show understanding, be reliable – living with others is not just about us and our needs, but also about them. In this respect, no relationship is really “easy” because no relationship lasts on its own. But when you’re in good harmony as a couple and have built a strong bond, at least certain elements of the relationship feel easy and effortless, which can cause headaches for some people. We are thinking, for example, of…
9 things that feel easy for happy couples
1. Cuddling
Do you know that problem where you’re sitting on the sofa cuddling up with someone, watching a movie and can’t think about anything other than how the position is terribly uncomfortable for you and how you could change it discreetly? Terrible! But the good news: This doesn’t happen to couples who are attuned to each other. Either they know in advance which cuddling poses work best for both of them, or they simply tell or show each other how they want to sit or lie – without any sleepy arms, stiff necks or bruised shoulders.
2. Kissing
“I hope I don’t have bad breath!”, “My lips aren’t that soft right now,” “Damn, my nose got in the way!” – Couples who are very familiar with each other usually don’t have such worries. Whether right after waking up or having dinner at a Greek restaurant, happy couples kiss whenever they feel like it and have their style perfectly coordinated. And if something goes wrong or someone has eaten too much garlic, they take it with humor and don’t worry about it.
3. Arguing
Nobody likes to argue, but anyone who grew up with siblings knows that there are simple, casual arguments and there are strenuous ones that usually lead to nothing and are completely unsatisfactory. Disputes in a harmonious relationship usually belong to the former type. Those involved vent their anger, let out their displeasure, feel bad about it, but somehow relieved afterwards…
4. Make up
… and are ready to reconcile. No need to make a big attempt to jump over your own shadow, no fear of rejection, just take a step towards the other person, ask for forgiveness and forgive.
5. Phone, text, communicate
“Should I hang up now?”, “Will he understand if I write it like that?” – terrible when you have to weigh every word and think about everything you say. A happy relationship means that those involved can communicate freely with each other and sometimes say something thoughtlessly without something blowing up. And if misunderstandings or injuries do arise, you clarify them, reconcile and learn from them.
6. Take space for yourself
In a harmonious relationship, it is natural for those involved to do their own thing and take time and space for themselves. They neither have a guilty conscience nor the feeling that they are neglecting their sweetheart, nor are they afraid of moving away from them as a result.
7. Relax
In a happy relationship you can show yourself to the other person as you are and feel comfortable. You don’t constantly feel the pressure of having to dress up for others and present yourself in top form. In a well-coordinated team, stubble on your legs or cellulite on your thighs are not obstacles to getting close to each other when you feel like each other, and they don’t bother you while you’re having fun together.
8. Be honest
Of course, even in harmonious relationships there are situations in which it can be difficult to tell the truth. But in everyday life, for example when it comes to expressing an opinion or criticizing, well-rehearsed couples find it easy to be honest with each other…
9. Show feelings
… and to reveal your own feelings. Pain, anger, jealousy, disappointment – in a well-established relationship it takes neither courage nor effort to live out emotions because you trust your partner and feel safe with them.