psychology
6 problems of people who were spoiled too much as children
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Parents mean well when they spoil their children, but in the end they pay the price. These six problems are typical of spoiled people.
Most of all, many parents would love to anticipate their children’s every wish and pamper them to the letter. But just as it can damage a person’s self-esteem if they were praised too much as a child, even spoiled children can find it difficult to cope with their lives later on. Here are six common problems people get from their parents, “Yeah, of course, baby!” got to hear…
6 typical problems of spoiled people
1. You can’t deal with defeat
If we don’t learn to put up with setbacks and disappointments as children, it hits us all the harder as adults when something doesn’t go the way we want it to.
2. They give up easily
Sooner or later we all get into a situation where we have to fight for something. But anyone who always got everything as a child (i.e. from their parents) never had to learn to fight – and will therefore tend to throw in the towel as an adult when there is resistance.
3. You can’t handle criticism or rejection
A rejection after the interview? A basket? There’s no such thing! What morons decided that! They have no idea! So it’s not up to me… Yes, that’s how someone who was Mama’s little prince as a child could react. Problem: He misses a good opportunity to reflect on himself – and grow!
4. You take happiness and success for granted
Spoiled people know nothing other than always getting what they want. And so they never learn to really appreciate positive things. Sad, because the ability to be happy (even about the little things) brings many beautiful moments of happiness into our lives.
5. You cannot take initiative
Why show commitment when everything works by itself? People who, as children, only had to say “beep” to get something done, are often more likely to wait for others to get involved and take care of things.
6. You are dependent and quickly overwhelmed
Whaaaat? Do I have to register myself for the office and my new place of residence? When am I supposed to do all this? If everything was taken from you as a child, how can you suddenly have everything under control when you are on your own? No wonder that spoiled people are often hardly resilient and quickly find themselves swimming. Can’t really fault them…
But we have one consolation for all those who were spoiled by their parents and now have to deal with the consequences: What the parents missed, reality catches up faster than we would like. And fortunately we continue to learn throughout our lives and adapt to the demands placed on us. Even if we were spoiled as children.