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This is what it says about you if you love sex scenes in books
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In romance novels, the sex scenes seem to be getting more and more explicit. And more and more popular. Here we reveal what it says about you if you particularly enjoy devouring these book pages.
When we read a book, it usually feels like we are right in the middle of it. We feel the warmth in the south Spain, feel like we are in good company in a restaurant or: We feel the tingling sensation as the couple finally passionately undresses and begins to explore their bodies.
“It started about seven to ten years ago with the New Adult genre, which came from the USA at the time,” literary agent Roswitha Kern told “Stern”. And since then, the trend of writing romance novels with sex scenes full of details has become ever greater. But what is behind this popularity?
This is what it says about you if you love sex scenes in books
You just want to relax
Sexologist and activist Dr. Laura Méritt explains on her company website “Sexclusivities” why people like intimacy in books so much: “Women, but also other readers, like to read explicit sex scenes in which they themselves are more pampered and satisfied.” Just the thought of it can lead to feelings of happiness and relaxation through dopamine, among other things, while stress is reduced by lowering the cortisol level in the body.
You like to look beyond your reality
However, devouring the pages of a book is not about wanting or needing to experience exactly what happens there. It is more about imagination, as Dr. Laura Méritt says: “Fantasies can differ from real desires. Projecting yourself into a scene frees you from your own bedroom.” It can be seen as a change, a little escape from everyday life that refreshes you and releases energy. And maybe there is even something there that appeals to you and you would like to try out?
You are fascinated by lust
Keyword fantasy. When we read something, we automatically imagine the scenes. The more explicitly they are described, the more precise our images are. A fact that is often used in novels is described by literary scholar Astrid Böger to the “Stern”: “Since the reading process always stimulates the imagination, literature is particularly well suited as a medium for depicting desire. And female desire has long fascinated people, see DH Lawrence’s scandalous work ‘Lady Chatterley’s Lover’ from 1928.” It seems to be a trend whose roots arose long ago.
You love stories with happy endings
Hardly any romance novel has a painful, sad ending. That also says something about you – you’re more of a happy ending type than having to mourn or ponder at the end. You want to leave the story you’ve been a part of for the last few days or weeks with a positive overall impression. Maybe you prefer it when everyone is happy: your fellow human beings in real life and in fiction. Or maybe you just can’t handle anything negative in your life right now. There may be very personal reasons why you prefer a happy ending.
You like the openness about sex
Sex was a taboo subject for a long time. And even though it is now discussed more openly in many places, the feeling of shame has not disappeared. Many sex scenes in books convey this differently, which is why you might love them so much. Astrid Böger says: “Popular romances offer the opportunity to identify with a protagonist who learns to take her own needs and their satisfaction seriously. They give their readers a guide to empowerment, so to speak.” In addition to relaxation, exciting fantasy and a happy ending, it may also be the need to learn something and become more self-determined that makes you devour these pages so quickly.