Psychology: This question immediately makes you more relaxed

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This question immediately makes you more relaxed

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Sometimes fears, worries or to-dos can stress us so much that we simply cannot find peace. A single question can mean a lot in such moments.

In the podcast “Betreutes Fühlen” with Leon Windscheid, Atze Schröder compared his inner serenity to a lake: Stones could certainly fly in and of course there are waves, but basically the lake just lies there, still and calm, while the sun is shining , moon and stars reflect in it. This comparison is great because it makes it clear that even calm people (like Atze Schröder) get upset when there is reason to, but quickly find their way back to their inner center and balance. The prize question that arises, however, is: How do these people do it?

Question against acute excitement

Of course, there are numerous effective ways to become more calm. In their podcast, the two experts mention, for example, yoga, art and nature or taking a few minutes every day to get excited (you can also find some methods, for example in our articles on the topics of “staying calm” or “slowing down”) ). But in a state of acute excitement from which we simply cannot find a way out, sometimes just a single question or a thought game can help to calm down a little, namely:

What happens if I fail an exam? I have to write it again, maybe I’ll even end up without a degree – that’s stupid, but then I’ll try a different route. What are the consequences if I don’t complete my to-dos and fail at work? Well, I can lose it and maybe I won’t find a new one and end up unemployed. But then I will at least be supported by our social network and can continue my education, reposition myself and get help from the BA. What if I, as a mother, am overwhelmed and do something wrong? Worst case scenario, my child will become a traumatized, screwed-up adult, but that can happen just as well if I do everything right.

Are all of these worst-case scenarios, which are highly unlikely to even occur, really so absolutely bad that it is justifiable to give in completely to panic and excitement? Or wouldn’t they all be fates that we don’t want, but would manage somehow?

Even in the worst-case scenario, the world won’t end

Sure, our everyday dramas can take truly terrible turns and leave us in a bind – but even the worst outcome is never the end of the world. So many people have experienced terrible things and somehow managed to cope with them. Parents have lost their children, athletes have lost their legs and almost everyone has lost a job. They probably all thought beforehand that they couldn’t handle it, but when faced with fate, they managed it anyway – and some even grew from it.

Admittedly, in a worst-case scenario, this method can probably create even more fear and excitement than before. But isn’t it somehow reassuring that even then the world won’t end…?

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