psychology
People with high emotional resilience have internalized these sentences
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With the word “resilience” we associate resistance. The ability to survive difficult situations without suffering permanent damage. But resilience is not only important physically or socially, it can also be of support emotionally.
“Resilience”, derived from the Latin “resiliere”, means something like: to rebound or contract. Does emotional resilience then mean letting all difficulties bounce off you – resistance through inner toughness, so to speak? Quite the opposite. The term is used to describe people who can allow their emotions and learn from them. This characteristic makes them better at mastering even difficult situations. In addition to the difficult periods of life, they regularly remind themselves of the things they are grateful for; focus on what they can really influence – and also take time for grief, suffering or pain instead of pushing them aside.
The principles of emotional resilience
For many people, giving space to feelings and not repressing them is easier said than done. We also know in theory that we have beautiful things in our lives, both small and large. But it is not always easy for people to see them. Especially when you have reached a stressful phase in your life. Emotional resilience also has a lot to do with self-compassion – and both can be learned and practiced. For example, by being able to accept your own vulnerability little by little or by learning that dark days are just as justified as the good ones.
Phrases that people with high emotional resilience use
On “CNBC make it,” US psychologist Cortney Warren names a few sentences that can be used in a variety of situations. We have summarized them for you:
1. “I can get through this”
People with high emotional resilience believe in their strength. They see themselves as the person who can influence the situation for better or worse – and believe that their future is in their own hands. When everything seems to be going wrong, they are aware that external circumstances do not have to smooth out their fate and that their own strength is their greatest help.
2. “What can I learn from this?”
Settlements and mistakes are an opportunity for people with high emotional resilience. What can they learn from what didn’t work and do better in a new attempt? Instead of fixating on what went wrong, they focus on how they can use the experience to their advantage.
3. “I need some time”
When people with high emotional resilience are confronted with strong feelings, they take time to deal with them. They get involved with them in order to be able to regulate them better. This causes the emotion to be processed and become less intense. Especially in decision-making situations, this characteristic helps them not to act emotionally charged, but rather to approach a situation with more calm.
4. “I still have things to be grateful for”
Regularly remembering things that trigger gratitude is also a sign of high emotional resilience. It could be a coffee in the morning, a person like your best friend, a pet, the fact that you can make yourself comfortable on the sofa in the evening and so on… Sometimes just a nice view from the window or that is enough nice weather for a walk.
5. “I’m breaking away from it”
Many people have problems letting go of what has happened. Things that made us uncomfortable or embarrassing, or moments in which we suddenly question our own behavior afterwards. It could have been a stupid comment from someone that bothers us for hours or even days. Maybe we think about retaliation or simple anger keeps us stuck in the past. But we can also let things go, even if they weren’t right – simply so that they no longer burden us.
Sources used: cnbc.com, verywellmind.com, bmz.de, dorsch.hogrefe.com