Debate Master explains
This is how you win every discussion!
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Whether about vacation planning or home furnishings – there are lengthy discussions in every respect. Debate master Marietta Gädeke explains how to show off skilfully.
Do you know that? You have a long discussion with your friend – and in the end he talked you against the wall with his arguments? Only later does it occur to you what you should have answered. Time to turn the tables!
Marietta Gädeke (34) was a German debater and knows how to win a discussion!
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Marietta Gädeke from Debate Consult knows how to successfully discuss. She is a former German debater and reveals how to properly boil your partner.But she warns in advance: "It's better not to discuss serious relationship problems with these tips. This can be quite manipulative.? "
The expert used the topic as an example Vacation planning select. Do you really want to assert yourself? Then she recommends these strategies.
Expand / narrow the topic
Do you notice that he is gaining the upper hand on your topic? Then just change the topic without you noticing and you're back in the race.
Examples:
Tactic: Narrow
- He suggests Mallorca (and means the whole island). You say: "The Ballermann is terrible – how can you drag me there? "
Tactic: Expand
- He's suggesting an island vacation in Malta? "Islands are great – surely you have nothing against Sylt either. "
Tactics: Äcompare apples with pears
- You don't want to go to North Korea with me because there is a dictator there? Then you cannot suggest a vacation in Turkey, Hungary or the USA, they are just as bad! "
Flipping one's arguments (retorsion)
Make a "just because" argument. This turns every argument into its opposite. Especially helpful when you've run out of ideas!
Example:
- "You don't want to go to Spain because everyone is going there this year? But that's exactly why it would be great – then we can at least have a say and get a lot more tips from our friends!"
Accuse him of something he cannot change (ad hominem argument)
Does he react confidently to every argument? Then find something about himself that he cannot change and use it as an argument.
Example:
- "As a man, you can't really empathize with what it is like when you can't even relax as a woman on vacation because people are staring at you all the time!" (preferably in a fragile voice)
Provoke him a little
Incite your friend to anger and he will no longer be able to think and argue rationally. At the same time, you can bring the other to an exaggeration and accuse him of this afterwards.
example:
- "It was clear that you wanted to go to the same place as your buddies – there you see again: You are just a follower!"
- He replies that he NEVER just participates, but ALWAYS thinks everything through himself. A wonderful template to give him an old anecdoteto smear nicely on bread.
Answer the question behind the question
If he asks you something unpleasant, do not respond to it, but switch to another level. The moral club, ethics and the basics ("Your mother never liked me anyway") are always suitable for this.
Example:
Apply the submarine strategy
Use a catchphrase that you know will definitely jump on you. But think about beforehand which argument you can use to downplay his objection. So he falls you into the argumentative trap. (This is called submarine strategy, because you appear with the trigger word like a submarine watcher)
Example:
You want to try bungee jumping on vacation, among other things, but you know – he was always against a vacation in India. You say: "I've heard that INDIA is supposed to be particularly beautiful this time of year." He says: "Not at all! There is no bungee jumping in India". You have already researched secretly beforehand and countered: "Sure, there are four places where that is possible! I'll show you. "