psychology
5 energy thieves that we are now parting with
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Energy thieves are hiding everywhere in our lives – not only in other people, but above all in ourselves. We clean up: We prefer to part with these people, habits and things.
“It doesn’t do anything for you,” we did Heard Guido say it many times. In the “shopping queen” context, it’s usually about the trousers that are too tight, the loose dress or the ill-fitting blouse. But even far away from fashion, there are things that cannot do you any good, but which you are actually surrounded by every day.
The problem with the energy thieves of our everyday life: We usually don’t even notice them. Rather, they are subconscious things, actions or habits that are completely normal for us. Of which we think that they just belong. That life has to be like this. And that we would have to endure them. We only realize how much energy some things have cost us when we keep them away from us.
Everyone has their own energy thieves that “do nothing for her:him”. That may be people. Or outdated ideas and claims that have become firmly anchored in our society and in our minds at some point. Ready to unmask and declutter together?
Energy robbers, which we will now bring to the door in a friendly manner
1. Bad conscience makers
“But I was so happy”, “You never have time”, “But I can’t do it alone”. You’ve overcome yourself and been honest, canceled a meeting, said “no” once and turned down a request. If you then hear such sentences, the bad conscience is inevitable. By the way: People who are always there for everyone and want to please everyone get to hear them particularly often. Those who dare to listen to their own needs should not be punished by bad conscience makers. Stop it – you can talk openly with people about what such words evoke in you. If it doesn’t help, the only thing left in the end is to distance yourself. Because that’s emotional blackmail.
2. Buy clothes that are too small
You always buy only 36/38, but the dress pulls at the waist? Buy the 40. Or just leave the garment hanging. No fashion brand in the world is worth us holding our breath, sucking in our stomachs and feeling uncomfortable – because it shows in our looks. Clothing sizes are getting smaller and smaller, and they vary from shop to shop. Let’s stop letting them spoil our fashion and buy what fits, not what should fit according to the dress size.
3. Shame
“I think that women are often more ashamed than men,” said Guido Maria Kretschmer recently in a Wilkinson interview and hey, he’s right. Why are we actually ashamed of everything? Next time “, if you’re worried about blushing, getting dirty or getting stuck, think about what you would think if it happened to the other person instead of you. Guaranteed nothing bad. So: Shame is a huge energy sapper of our lives and we can only overcome it together – with honesty and humor.
4. Compare to people on social media
We know that the brave new world of social media isn’t the reality. And yet we find ourselves scrolling through random Instagram feeds of people who seem somehow prettier, cooler, more relaxed or stylish. Does nothing for us and certainly not for our self-confidence. Let’s follow people who present themselves honestly on social media – or save time and put the cell phone away more often.
5. Others want to change
We often not only have the aspiration to constantly optimize ourselves – but unfortunately also our environment. How many people out there are unhappy in relationships because they still believe their partner would become Prince Charming? Incidentally, it is also not nice for the other person to constantly want to be changed. Let’s take people as they are. Incidentally, this also takes a huge burden off your own shoulders by not constantly making yourself responsible for others.