Psychology: which love language do you speak?

Love Language
Learn your language in order to understand one another

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Love is an abstract term that speaks many languages. To be precise: five. Each one is differently pronounced in people. Do you know your expression

It is not an easy endeavor to show that you love someone – especially not if the other person is supposed to receive it that way. As individual as people are, so is their expression and understanding of love. Not being on the same wavelength here can lead to conflicts in conjunction with poor communication skills.

The American author Gary Chapman raised the question of the “Love Language” in his book in 1992. And today, 30 years later. the question is part of the standard repertoire of the dating world. The five categories help us understand how we want to give and receive love. If you know what language the other person speaks, it becomes easier to respond to each other.

Of course, we don’t just use one term. Rather, the five components are differently pronounced and their composition results in our individual “love expression”.

Love languages: There are five expressions

confirmation

Praise, gratitude, active listening, and empowering words are ways to meet this need. With the appreciation of small and large successes, the counterpart is shown that he: she is seen. If the effort is not noticed, this type can be sad.

Quality time

Undivided attention, please! Regular date nights are a must here in order to exchange ideas and enjoy each other. Whether you create new memories together or have in-depth conversations is up to you – the main thing is that you are together.

Body contact

And that goes far beyond sex: physical closeness and availability are essential for those who speak this language. Whether hugs, head petting or cuddles – the main thing is to touch and be touched. This gives security and is the strongest expression of love for some people.

gifts

Attention is essential to find the right gift for the right occasion. It is not about the purely material value, but about having made an effort and not forgetting special events.

Deeds

As is well known, they speak louder than words. Relieving your loved ones of work or making things easier can already be done in everyday life: emptying the dishwasher, preparing dinner or doing the laundry without being constantly informed. By relieving each other of work, you show that you are a team – we want that, right?

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