Do you have this one question you may not ask your gynecologist? Maybe we can answer them – we talked to an expert.
Visits to the gynecologist are not one of the most beautiful things in the world anyway. If you also have a specific problem that is somehow embarrassing – even worse! And if he can not even help you – disaster !!
With these five unpleasant questions, you never have to torment yourself again, because we have asked an expert (#bittegerne). Gabriele Aigner is a sex therapist and advises couples and individuals in her practice on ALL issues related to sex and sexuality. She also knows when the gynecologist should be called.
I do not like to sleep with my partner because sex hurts me. What am I doing wrong?
First of all, sex should never hurt! Pain during sex can have both physical and psychological causes.
Relationship problems, anxiety, poor previous experience, or self-esteem problems can, for example, cause the vaginal muscles to cramp; doctors call this vaginismus . You should talk about it with your partner so that you can try out how it is better for you. Try to find out when it hurts and when it does not.
Or you can try relaxation exercises. But if nothing helps, you better do more profound cause research and seek advice from a therapist.
But if everything is more or less palette psychically, infections, dry mucous membranes or endometriosis can be the reasons for pain during sex. These problems are not uncommon and your gynecologist can treat and, for the most part, solve them – but you have to address them once.
After sex, I always smell weird. Why is that?
The reassuring news: After lustful sex everyone smells. Our “humors”, ie sweat, lubrication, semen, come out with us without smell. Anyone trying to cover them up with artificial fragrances risks becoming more susceptible to intimate diseases.
However, if you notice a characteristic fishy smell on you after sex, a certain type of bacterium in your vaginal flora is probably a bit too broad. It is called Gardnerella and lives, for example, in our intestinal and vaginal flora. When it comes into contact with semen, the smell of fish is reminiscent, but we only notice it when more Gardnerella bacteria are involved than usual.
In that sense, the smell indicates an infection, because just so these bacteria should not be so emaciated. If you smell fish, you should ask your doctor to check you for “bacterial vaginosis” so that he may prescribe you an antibiotic.
I can not reach the climax vaginally. What’s wrong with me, please?
Everything is right with you – just like your billions of fellow sufferers. In fact, only about every sixth to tenth female gets an orgasm vaginally (difficult to determine, so the studies vary). This is simply because the G-spot is anatomically not “satisfactorily” stimulated with penetration in most women.
Solution: Try different positions or touch and satisfy yourself with your fingers or show your friend how to touch you so you can have fun as well. Talk and try !
Could it be that my vagina becomes ENGER with time?
Yes and no. The menopause (usually begin between center 40 to mid 50) lead to changes in the hormonal balance and also of the mucosa. More than 50 percent observe that their mucosa becomes drier, making the skin more sensitive and their vaginal entrance narrower.
What helps is lube or oil and regular sex to stay in exercise. Sport and healthy eating are also important. In case of excessive changes, of course, consult the gynecologist.
Why do I always bleed during sex and how can I prevent it?
Bleeding outside of the rule should control the gynecologist.
During and after the change, the mucous membrane becomes more sensitive, thinner and thus prone to tearing.
Before changing, you should not bleed when you are healthy. If you do, you should ask yourself: Do you enjoy sex with your friend? Are you getting wet? Or does he invade you while you’re still dry and your head at the grocery list? If you do not feel like having sex, it could explain the bleeding.
However, in the worst case, bleeding during sex can also be triggered by cervical cancer , so in case of doubt, better overcome it and ask the doctor. When he finds out that only the lining of the uterus has slipped over the cervix (which happens to every third woman), it can soil the tissue and the problem is solved.