Relationship: 12 people share why they’re having an emotional affair

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People tell: That’s why I got involved in an emotional affair

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An affair doesn’t have to have a sexual component to mean something. You can read here what can lead people to have an emotional affair.

When we start talking about fraud in a partnership is debatable. However, it is probably a clear signal when the person concerned has a guilty conscience and the feeling that they are cheating on their partner. In fact, an emotional affair can mean a lot more – and have more serious consequences – than a sexual one. At “Whisper” numerous people spoke of their emotional betrayal and explained what drove them to do it.

People tell: That’s why I’m having an emotional affair

1. Fulfillment

“I’m a married woman and I’m having an emotional affair with my best friend’s husband. I feel like the greatest hypocrite, but at the same time, I’m so fulfilled right now. I can’t say I’m sorry … not yet. “

2. Toxic relationship

“My husband treats me like a nuisance most of the time. That’s why I betray him emotionally with one of our mutual friends. If I weren’t so cowardly, I would do it physically too.”

3. Revenge

“I deliberately let my husband discover my emotional affair with my boss. He’s hurt me so many times. Now it’s his turn.”

4. Compensation

“I felt rejected by my partner and therefore betrayed him emotionally. He had many affairs when we met, and I think since we were married. He has now found out about my affair and has so far not said anything about it.”

5. loneliness

“I’ve missed my emotional affair since I ended it. My husband doesn’t give me anything at the moment. I feel so lonely.”

6. Happened just like that

“I’ve always been a loyal partner … but now I’ve realized that I may be having an emotional affair with someone close to me who has tried to help me save my relationship. I hate myself for that, but I can not help it.”

7. Different ideas about marriage

“I told my husband about my emotional affair with my boss and said I would understand if he wanted a divorce because of it. He told me to just tick this off and come back to him ‘… um, WHAT ?! “

8. Need for attention

“I am emotionally unfaithful to my boyfriend. There is nothing I can do about it, I just fell for a man who tries harder than my partner. The fact that he travels a lot doesn’t help either …”

9. Compensatory justice

“I have now confessed to my boyfriend that I was cheating on him emotionally. He then confessed to me that he was having sex with someone from work. One on one, I would say.”

10. Lack of commitment

“I’ve only just realized I’m having an emotional affair. The worst part is, my official relationship means so little to me that I don’t even feel bad about being cheated on.”

11. Kindred spirits

“I’m having an emotional affair with my ex. I think or know he was or is my soul mate. I think I got committed too quickly when I felt at the time that there was no hope for us.”

12. Desire

“I’m having an emotional affair with my colleague. I won’t go any further with him while he’s with his girlfriend. I hope he leaves her so we can get closer physically.”

Source used: Whisper.sh

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