Some things are difficult to take back – for example a “yes” in front of the altar. Stupid when you find out afterwards that you weren’t actually ready for it. As these stories show, this does happen.
We probably always perceive it particularly intensely, but it feels quite often that we only see clearly when it is too late: After a breakup, we suddenly realize what a rare treasure our ex actually was, after changing jobs, how good we were in our old position, and after our wedding, that we were completely sweaty to really enjoy our single life again beforehand. Once we have the ring on our finger, it is usually too late for that unless we are ready to take it off again. At “Whisper“Numerous people have reported on exactly this dilemma and shared what they regret most of not having done before their wedding. And who is toying with the idea of getting married in the near future can ask himself whether the following points apply to her have already been ticked off …
Married people say: I regret not having done that before my wedding
1. Get to know the groom better
“I regret not getting to know my husband better before we got married. I think that would have made our marriage easier because it was quite a challenge.”
2. Gain experience
“I would have liked to have traveled more before my wedding and tried a same-sex partnership. Some days I dream of being able to turn back time, do both, and only get to know him afterwards.”
3. Travel
“Travel and see the world. I was still so young and my husband has no need to travel. I will probably do it alone now in my late 40s or early 50s or something.”
4. Live alone
“I wish I had lived alone before I got married. I moved from my parents to a dorm with roommates and from there with my husband. I’ve never seen what it is like to live alone.”
5. Make a marriage contract
“I regret not having signed a prenuptial agreement before we got married. I’m so scared that we’ll get a divorce and she’ll take everything I’ve worked for.”
6. Marry you sooner
“Honestly? The only thing I would have liked to have done before my wedding is to marry her sooner! She’s the best person in the whole world!”
7. Partying and being single
“I wish I had partied a little more and been single for a while when I was younger. I got married when I was 24. I love my husband, but that was way too early.”
8. Wait
“I regret not having to wait any longer before my wedding. I jumped into it way too quickly. Everyone says, ‘Awww, you were in high school together,’ but maybe that was my biggest mistake.”
9. Have a threesome
“I wish I had a threesome before we got married. I know my husband experimented a lot before me and sometimes that makes me feel insecure.”
10. Get to know your family
“I wish I had gotten to know my husband’s family better before our wedding. They are so unbearable and I’m really not sure if I would have married him at all if I had already known that.”
11. Having a baby
“I wish I had a baby before I got married. My husband is great, but he already has four children and doesn’t want any more. I gave up trying to have children for him, but I regret not having had my own before.”
12. Have sex
“I definitely shouldn’t have waited until the wedding to have sex. Sometimes I even resent my husband for that, even though it wasn’t his fault at all.”
13. Complete training
“I just wish I had graduated before I got married. I feel like I have to stay with my husband even if we don’t get along because I don’t have an education to make a living from.”
14. Coming alone
“I wish I had learned to deal with my depression and anxiety before I got married. I’m grateful for the support my husband gives me, but I feel like I have to deal with it myself and I can’t. ”
15. Learn to love yourself
“I wish I had learned to love myself first. The fact that I thought I was not lovable put a lot of strain on my marriage.”