Fumbling, birding, moaning when the little mice sleep next door, so sweet and innocent? Does everything feel particularly "dirty", doesn't it? When you have just prayed at the cot and then suddenly the sex goddess is supposed to give. Apart from the fact that mom can talk about happiness if she hasn't already fallen asleep herself. Then still pull yourself up? Phew
And then that's the way it is: the foreplay actually lasts all day – well everyday life i mean And that's where the problem lies. No woman feels like having unrestrained, devoted sex in the evening when she feels left alone with everything during the day (household, children, garden blablabla). And no man feels like groping his way up to his wife in a loving, lustful way in the evening when she doesn't have much nicer things to say to him, except: "Please take her, I have to go to the bathroom."
So first of all a fact check. It's just like that – you can read studies on this or experience it yourself: The desire for sex and thus the frequency (once a week, haha) simply ebbs away in long-term partnerships. And: Sex in long relationships is difficult, but sex in long relationships with children – thick, thick board, dear people. Sex in couples with children is when the neck is stiff instead of the tail because you are constantly looking to the door to see if someone is coming in. Yep, bingo. Isn't the sentence from me, I read in the great book "Parental Diseases". Well, in a very practical sense it is difficult to get that done at all – from “him highget “not to mention. Can have an infinite number of reasons, of course. Is it also the birth experience? It hurt a lot down there, let me rest first. And what about the men? Just the doer and / or guy and then the viewer who can't do anything to free his lover from the pain inferno? Not just beautiful. Images get stuck that have to get out of your head.
It goes on: The body of us women is no longer like it was before. Of course, this does not remain without consequences in sex life. BUT: It doesn't necessarily have to do with the fact that the bottom has dents or the stomach has stripes, but that we FEEL uncomfortable with it. A look at the world's porn sites can help. Not all men are into boyish, crisp women … “mature mothers” are also on offer. So just have the courage to have your own body – it depends on the inner glow! (Ok, not so in porn now, but im real Sex life very well) Of course, it still remains difficult: For many years you have to work as a team to cope with everyday life, first see yourself when breastfeeding with dripping breasts, then eating leftovers from the children's plate, tired in jogging suit, irritable and overwhelmed and constantly brushing your teeth in the bathroom – where should there still be a secret? The sweet stranger of the opposite sex? Delicate and surprising? How come!
Actually only have one idea: Don't think too much about sex, just do it again. As is well known, the appetite comes from eating. And it can also be junk food. Uh, I mean a quick number.
This article originally appeared on Eltern.de.