True love
That’s the best way to recognize them
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True love! We all want to find it, but hardly anyone knows how to do it and what really defines it. High time to sort it out.
- He gives up his life for her – true love!
- She takes care of him when he’s sick and puts her own needs aside – true love!
- Although she cannot fulfill his desire to have children, he stays with her without ever reproaching her for it – true love!
We all know stories of true love. Luckily! So we at least know that it really exists. But what good is it to us if we don’t know anything else about it? For example, how do we know if we have found true love? Or why is it worth looking for? Nothing (except that it may motivate us to look for a partner). So: continue in the text!
What is the difference between true love and other love?
There are basically many types of love, for example:
Even if each of these types of love is of course interesting and some also have something to do with true love – by true love we usually mean something different. We mean by that Feelings that we only feel for one or the other that one person who …
- is more important than anyone else in the world
- makes you feel complete and perfect
- ideally should accompany us to the end of our lives
And with that we already have a unique selling point of true love: It is exclusive and connects exactly two peopler (with the exception of polyamorous relationships, of course).
How does true love come about?
True love grows over time. It arises from the connection between two people on different levels harmonize particularly well with each other.
This harmonizing well with one another becomes noticeable in everyday life, for example, through …
- physical pleasure, passion and good sex (attention: orgasm problems can still exist!)
- mutual understanding – even without words
- familiarity
- to be able to share everything with each other
- A matter of course and ease of use
- mutual tolerance
Many love stories begin with a tingling sensation in the stomach. Because why do you mainly fall in love again? Exactly: so that you don’t overlook the right person!
But true love can also arise from friendship. Even that seldom happens without being in love, but then falling in love is not at the beginning of the relationship, but mostly marks the transition from the phase of friendship to love.
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How do I know true love?
In contrast to being in love (which we can hardly miss thanks to the party that the hormones celebrate in our body and turn our emotions and feelings upside down), true love is incredibly difficult to recognize – and ultimately looks different for all of us.
Sure, one thing is the aforementioned characteristics of harmony. There are also other typical signs of love, for example:
- to trust
- nostalgia
- jealousy
- dedication
- Loyalty instead of selfishness
- no expectations and unconditionality
Both can help – as the external expression of deep connection, so to speak – love in the everyday life of our partnership (you can find more information and other signs of love in our article).
True love is stronger than fate
However, true love is most clearly evident in crises and extreme situations:
- True love survives even the worst strokes of fate! Things or events that break other relationships only weld couples who truly love each other closer together.
And what makes such a bond then: It gives us courage and helps us to cope with every catastrophe.
Is there always only one true love in our life?
No! Every person can truly and exclusively love several different people (i.e. partners) in their life – only mostly not at the same time.
We all change as long as we live. Of course it can happen that two people who are perfect for each other in one phase of their life no longer harmonize in the next or the next. If we grow apart, it means that our relationship has come to an end and we now have to go through the phases of separation. but it doesn’t mean that what once connected us wasn’t true love.
In addition: It can unfortunately happen that our partner dies far too early. Even then, we can find someone we feel true love for again – even if we may not believe it immediately after our heartbreak.
What is so special about true love (great)?
We have already mentioned a few special features of true love. For example, we found that love
- survives everything
- is exclusive and
- gives us strength.
But the really magical and magical thing about true love is: It makes us happy. And deeply happy. And satisfied.
Admittedly: The typical human self-doubts, unsatisfied desires and needs, conflicts and arguments – we always have to face all of this, even when we are with someone who loves us and whom we love. but none of this can really harm us. Why? Because this person by our side has convinced us of something that gives us the greatest security and emotional calm that we can feel as a person. Something that he makes us feel deep in our hearts: that we are lovable. And irreplaceable. And that we do not have to do or achieve anything for it but to be ourselves. And that’s why it’s always worth looking for true love.