Narcissists are pure, manipulative poison in a relationship – and always manage to blame their victims for everything. You will recognize them immediately by these warning signs!
Actually, she just wanted to please him – and yet for Laura (name changed by the editorial team) there were again only angry accusations. The hoped-for romantic evening ends in arguments and tears. And like countless times before, Laura begins to doubt herself: Was she perhaps not paying enough attention? Did she really misunderstand him? And can't she actually be happy to have such a popular, charming, successful man as a partner – even if his wishes and decisions always seem to be more important than her own? This crisis reveals what makes narcissistic relationships so treacherous: The victims suffer – and at the same time blame themselves for their misfortune. Diseased narcissists are real professionals at manipulating those around them and hiding their own abysses behind a charming facade. Fortunately, there are clear warning signs with which they can give themselves away quickly.
Unhappy and looking for confirmation
If they weren't such intolerable puke chunks, you could almost feel sorry for narcissists. They lead a miserable, miserable life and know that very well themselves. They can only feel better if they can receive recognition and applause from outside – and if they can drag another person down into their own misery.
A vicious circle in which nobody is happy
Like in a sick game, the partner is wooed and flattered – and then dropped and humiliated. Often these outbursts of anger are provided with clear indications that the partners concerned are “to blame” on the inside, and that the narcissist himself cannot understand “why he can put up with her”. Usually they rob their victims of their self-esteem so much that they ruefully ask for "forgiveness". The narcissist enjoys the attention of being implored – and returns benevolence and tenderness as a "reward". This vicious circle keeps turning until the victim finally finds the jump, or the narcissist looks for a new target for his pathological game. Therefore, pay close attention to these warning signs – because with them a narcissist will expose himself in the first days of a relationship.