Separate beds: That’s why a “sleep divorce” can be so good for love

Separate beds
This is why a “sleep divorce” can be so good for love

You may know it: Your partner snores, tosses and turns all night, or is a night person while you go to bed early. In many relationships, different sleeping habits lead to conflicts and not only reduce the quality of sleep, but also the quality of the relationship. A so-called “sleep divorce” can actually work wonders in many cases – but most of us shy away from it. After all, separate beds sound like the precursor to a separation for many people; as if you had grown so far apart that you can no longer endure the mutual closeness in bed. In fact, the opposite is usually the case.

Separate beds: That’s why they can be so good for the relationship

A 2014 study published in the “Social Psychological and Personality Science Journal” showed that sleep quality and relationship quality are closely linked. Poor sleep in one partner immediately led to more conflict and less harmony in the partnership the next morning. And not only that: Both partners showed less empathy for each other after a restless night. This makes it easy for minor disagreements to grow into major conflicts, as many of us know from personal experience. Against this background, the concept of “sleep divorce” sounds a lot less threatening, doesn’t it?

“Sleep Divorce”: Just try it out

So how to start? When discussing separate beds with your partner, it’s important to be open and understanding. Think together about what the new sleeping arrangements could look like and how they best fit into your lifestyle. After all, the main goal is to allow you both to have a good night’s sleep and thus a more harmonious relationship; not to alienate your partner or make each other feel rejected. In the video you can see two approaches with which separate beds can really inspire love again!

Sources used: Social Psychological and Personality Science Journal, Forbes

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