Confident, open, curvy and extremely sexy – that’s how we know sex expert Paula Lambert from different sixx formats. In an interview with gettotext.com she tells what she likes about herself and how she has learned to drop during sex.
Curvy or androgynous, comfortable or fit, lesbian or straight – sex makes us all happy! At least he could. If we go to bed with the right attitude.
One woman who clearly knows how to do it is Paula Lambert , sex expert at sixx. For years she has spoken in various formats in sixx public and uninhibited about lust, sexuality and femininity. Your curves? Are you doing damned good in the first place? On the occasion of our Curvy Week (and because we always like to talk to her about sex!) We talked to Paula, among other things, about the requirements we have to fulfill in order to have good sex. Attention spoiler: A BMI <25 is not one of them … ?
Gettotext.com: Hellöchen Paula! You are known for your openness and you talk a lot about sex for sixx. What does “the nicest thing in the world” mean to you?
Paula Lambert: I love sex for many reasons – but especially because in the sexuality of the essence of man to recognize. His wishes, hopes, fears. The act itself is actually uninteresting. The psychological aspect is the exciting part. At least when I work with others. Generally, I love this living fire that leaves sex behind . What can not you like about it?
From your experience: What role does women play in their own sex during sex?
For many women themselves, their character plays a huge role – but in truth? Absolutely none! It makes sense to have a body, but the figure of this body really does not matter. Many think they are more attractive and sexy for their partner if they have a slim waist and firm skin, but that’s not true. Desire works differently, over emotion, backstory, the associations that someone triggers with us. That’s why it’s different for everyone and we all stand – luckily! – on different types. Conclusion: You should feel good and be with someone who loves you . If you are extremely obese, you should change something, but for health reasons – not because of sex!
Do you personally know the problem that you do not enjoy sex? For example, because you feel uncomfortable and can not drop?
The problem of not being able to drop is ALWAYS a psychic one. I once had the best figure in the world, if you set social standards. Nevertheless, I was really ashamed. To me. Because I just found myself wrong and not good enough and not worthy. My husband still believes that I’m wearing size 36, even though I’m 30 pounds heavier than when we first met. As I said, it really is sausage like someone looks. Looking at the one with the look of love, he is beautiful . That’s no different.
Can sex even help to develop self-love and a positive body feeling?
When one finds someone who loves one, perhaps even a person with a lack of self-love realizes that there is something lovable about him. But still it is best to first learn on your own what kind of value you give yourself. No one else can make you happy, you can only do that yourself . But sex is a nice self-experience, which definitely helps to explore!
What do you like about your body – because of your previous research ?- most?
I like the power my body radiates. I like my legs, hips, chest, my head, my hair, pretty much actually. If you feel good, you radiate that too . It does not help to look like a top model when inside is a putrid something. In the end, one is still ugly anyway. So the other way around is better!
Are your inner values the most important to your sexual partner? Or does his character perhaps play a role?
I have to find HUMAN attractive. I do not want to deny that a high body weight can have disadvantages. When I was young and very thin, I once had sex with a really great, very fat man. From this encounter, I have suffered a multiple ribs. In general, if I love, I love . My men were mostly slim, but that just happened. If I had to bake one, it would be built like Jason Momoa.