Even joining the club of the 30s or shortly before that? Here you can find out what sex comes with your Exclusive Membership.
When we turn 30, a lot changes: We have to write a 3 in the first position of our age, scroll longer on online forms to find our year of birth and finally no longer be afraid of not being in their 20s anymore. A lot that we have to cope with. When it comes to sex, one thing or the other changes in the 30s. To name just five examples …
5 things that change when you have sex after 30
1. He's getting better.
Not that sex is bad up to 30, but a lot of women over 30 find it always more beautiful – and there are at least two plausible reasons for this: First, most people with 30+ have more sexual experience than with U30. We have already experimented and tried different variants, we know what we like and what turns us on, and we feel safer. Second, hormonal changes play our part: in men, from around 30, testosterone production begins to decrease, which means that they usually become more tender and loving. Women, on the other hand, tend to have more balance, self-confidence and dominance through their hormonal balance from the age of 30 – which in sex leads to us taking over the helm more often (and everyone involved usually benefits from this). In this respect, we don't want to promise too much – but if you've never had really good sex by the age of 30, that's definitely not a reason to give up!
2. You become more relaxed.
Self-doubt, dissatisfaction with one's own body, excessive fear of rejection – of course we may still experience all of this at 30+, but most women have at least found a healthy way to deal with it. At 30 we know that we are sexy, even though we don't always feel that way, and that sometimes men don't feel like it either, but that doesn't have to have anything to do with us. Thanks to this maturity, we can approach sex beyond the age of 30 in a much more relaxed and relaxed manner and concentrate more on pleasure instead of thinking about our performance or our appearance. An additional plus point: We are usually best when we are relaxed.
3. You are a contraception professional.
You could say that from the age of 30 we no longer have to worry about contraception, but that could quickly be misleading – because we are still fully of childbearing age, we should of course use contraception if we don't want to become pregnant. But the difference to our early 20s is: We know how it works best for us. Whether hormonal, mechanical or natural, we know our options, have perhaps already tried different methods and got used to the one that has protected us for years. In this respect, we no longer have to worry about contraception – because we can do it.
4. It can fulfill different functions.
If we are still relatively new to sexual intercourse, just participating in it tends to be so special that we don't really notice what it actually brings us. In the 30s, however, when we know the process and master it inside out, we usually gradually discover that sex can fulfill different functions: From pure pleasure and letting off steam with the ONS date from Tinder to communication and intimacy In a relationship, sex from 30 is rarely just sex that you have because it happens that way – usually it has even more meaning.
5. You make the world as you like it.
The more insecure we are, the more we seek orientation from others, are interested in general tips and trends and try to stick to them – also when it comes to sex. When is the best time for the first time? How long should we know someone before we have sex with them? How often do you have sexual intercourse in a relationship? Many people in their 20s are much more interested in such questions than they are in their 30+. On the other hand, if we gain self-confidence with increasing age and experience, we focus more on ourselves than on others and learn to do what we like. We discover our preferences, allow ourselves sex fantasies that we may live out, and have sex when and with whom we want – not when and with whom we should believe. In principle one can say that in the 30s we develop and find our sexual identity. And what others are doing in bed will still interest you, make you curious and perhaps inspire you. But it won't stop you from following your own voice and having the sex that you most beautiful.