In the program "Boomerang", on France inter, the interpreter of the title "Brunettes count not for plums" spoke without taboo about his sexual abstinence.
Lio is undoubtedly one of the most popular singers of the 1980s, and even after, thanks to her juror status at the Nouvelle Star on M6 or even to her participation in Dance with the stars, on TF1.
Free in his words, Lio (58 spring) confided, at the microphone of FranceInter on September 11, about his sex life. Thus, for eight years, the star of the hit "Banana Split" has not had sex with a man. "I, feminine desire, do not know it. Because in fact it was mortgaged, foreclosed by the desire of the men I wanted to please, because they take up all the space. And I am abstinent. I haven't slept since I was 50.”, Says the singer in“ Boomerang ”.
The host Augustin Trapenard, did not expect this revelation. “I am not telling you because it is obviously of the order of the intimate, of the political order, but I no longer want, I do not want to pay and I do not want to have a report which is that of 'an interest. I no longer want this relationship with my body from men and we always ask too much of a retribution from women.”, She added.
A mother of six and a battered ex-wife, Lio has been campaigning against domestic violence for years.
No longer making love, a source of imbalance?
Difficult rupture, period of reconstruction, assumed abstinence, stopping one's sexuality stems from various factors.
On the one hand, you have Freud's famous thought: "The task of mastering the sex drive other than by satisfying it can demand all the strength of a human being. Only a minority succeed, and again intermittently. The fight against sensuality consumes the energy of the available character."And then on the other you have Chantal Bourbigot, author of the book, Desire, which evokes his "crossing of non-desire".
"My body cries for mercy. I don't want a man in my life anymore, I don't want a man in my bed anymore. It’s not normal not to have sex, but it has to stop if I want to live closer to me. Happiness for the exhausted woman that I am, is to allow myself the necessary rest for the body."she writes.
In the magazine Psychology, the psychoanalyst J.-D. Nasio does not hesitate to name certain cases, the "disillusioned with sexuality". "They gave of themselves, they were disappointed and refuse to suffer again. It is as if their head imposed silence on their body. In the encounter, when the idea of suffering takes precedence over the idea of pleasure, abstinence shrinks life, isolates it. Since they have the feeling that they cannot do anything about it, abstinent people suffer and then resign themselves. ", he explains. "If you know how to express your feelings other than through sex, through words, gestures, caresses, you can surely find a form of balance", says the specialized media, the sex therapist Catherine Solano.