Invented by British dating site Wingman, snow storming refers to the action of leaving an unhappy relationship in the middle of winter, a time of year when people generally stay in a relationship despite their difficulties.
This “snowstorm” is a derivative of the love trend of “cobwebbing” (literally “spider webs”) which consists of mentally and physically getting rid of the ghost of our old relationships to prepare one’s heart (and head) for meet a new person. But “a fan of “snow storming” doesn’t just let go of his old loves, he also “lets go” of his current relationship“, explains Tina Wilson, founder of Wingman interviewed by the British magazine Stylist.
A practice that can have harmful effects on victims of “snow storming”
According to her, the arrival of the new year plays a big role in this awareness, because these people have “consciously begin to project themselves and react quickly if they feel unhappy in their current relationship, whatever the reason“.
This event can therefore sometimes be brutal and even violent for the person who is the victim of “snow storming”. It is “a turbulent reaction to the actions of the person seeking change and characterized by upheaval and disorder“, specifies Tina Wilson. If this can prove cathartic for the “snow stormer”, it is therefore important not to catch your partner by surprise or to suddenly disappear. Even if the decision to leave the relationship is made, THE dialogue and mutual respect are always the keys to a peaceful breakup. “It’s easy to put off the conversation about breaking, because you don’t want to hurt your partner’s feelings. Instead of wasting time with you, he could be with someone who wants to be with him. The best is therefore to act quickly and decisively, in the interest of both parties” concedes Tina Wilson.
“Snow storming”: a new term for an old practice
While this practice has advantages and disadvantages, the “snow stormer” is above all a person who evaluates their happiness and their values in their current relationship and who makes the decision to leave it despite the pressure of the winter season. It’s freeing yourself from society’s norms to listen to yourself and preserve yourself for a better future relationship.
But if this term seems brand new, “snow storming” is not a new phenomenon. From 2008, a study taken up by the Daily Mail argued that the day when couples would separate the most would be… December 11. According to the British media, the desire not to buy gifts for someone you no longer love would be the main explanation for this date a few weeks before Christmas. Whether it is a new love trend or an old phenomenon, a positive or selfish practice, “snow storming” is not unanimous. For some, it contributes to the holiday blues, while for others, it is a means of empowerment that prioritizes mental health and personal development over a relationship that no longer has any purpose. future.
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