Spouses on Reddit
What we would do differently on our wedding day today
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A wedding day for lovers is something to remember, especially for the couple themselves. But things don’t always go according to plan on this day – here are a few things to look out for.
Deciding on a life together and promising this to each other. A wedding is a beautiful celebration, but usually also associated with stressful planning over several months, doubts and worries – for example about the right choice of flowers or the perfect catering, the wedding dress or the location. But what is most important and that no couple should forget is that their day is at stake. Because they put their love first and celebrate (along with their favorite people).
What would married couples do differently today?
This is what users were asked on the social news website Reddit. Here are their honest answers about what lovers should avoid before or during marriage or what they would do differently at the wedding today. There might be one or two tips for those who are still engaged:
What spouses would have changed on their wedding day
1 out of 10
I would have made sure to set aside some time to myself that day. I didn’t even have five minutes on my wedding day to just be, to breathe, to reflect, or just to be in the moment.
2 out of 10
What I regret most could easily have been changed: making sure to tell the photographer who the closest family members are so they are more in focus. I have a lot of photos, but my siblings are in very few and so are my parents.
3 out of 10
I wouldn’t have told anyone about my wedding plans. Whenever I was asked how the planning was going, I would have simply said that it was a surprise. Everyone always knew everything better than we did. Up until the morning of our wedding, they tried to pressure me into changing things and spending money I didn’t have. I still did everything the way I wanted and the day was wonderful, but I could have saved myself a lot of trouble if I hadn’t shared anything. I wish instead of using all of my energies to justify or apologize for or doubt my decisions, I would have used the time to enjoy my time as an engaged person.
4 out of 10
I would have waited another five years. Not because I regret marrying him. We are still together and love each other and it has nothing to do with the fact that I was too young when we got married (I was 21). But I was a very different person at 26. Our life is very different now than it was when we got married. I’ve met so many more people since then and made so many great friends that I’m actually a little sad that they couldn’t be at my wedding.
5 out of 10
I would have taken the posed photos on another day. Squeezing all those photos into the one day when you’re supposed to be celebrating is honestly very exhausting and almost felt like work.
6 out of 10
I would have slept in my own bed the night before with my husband. I wanted to keep the tradition of not seeing each other before the wedding and stayed in a hotel room with my maid of honor, sister and mother. But I had so much on my mind and was worried that I only slept for about three hours. Being in an unfamiliar environment only made it worse. I was totally exhausted all day and we had to leave earlier than I wanted because I couldn’t keep my eyes open anymore.
7 out of 10
I would have forced myself to eat breakfast even though I was feeling nauseous with nerves – and I would have taken care of more pre-ceremony snacks.
8 out of 10
I wish I had had someone record all the speeches. I didn’t want a video of the rest of the wedding, but I wish I could remember what the groomsmen, my uncle and the others said.
9 out of 10
I would have gotten married at 11 a.m. in the morning! I’ve spent so much time nervous about walking down the aisle (because of all the people). I spent half the day being nervous. Get married in the morning so you can party the rest of the day and have fun on your wedding day!
10 out of 10
I wouldn’t change anything. We only told those very close to us. A few friends, girlfriends and family. We got married on the beach, we took pictures between 9 and 10 in the morning, then we took a nap and in the evening we ate sushi. The next day we went on a cruise and posted a photo on Facebook that we were getting married.
Your day – not someone else’s
Probably the most important tip from married people to upcoming wedding couples is to do it the way you like it. And not in the way others would like. Not revealing too much about your plans so you can avoid any nagging, and celebrate as small – or bigger – as suits you. Those are the things that mattered most to many.
And: good photos. Because this task has apparently already been lost at several wedding celebrations. Let them show you samples and let the photographer know who the really important people in your life are and should be in the pictures. A photo box or a few disposable cameras for the guests can also be a good choice.
Also: Decorations and flowers from the wedding ceremony (which you procured yourself and which are not borrowed) are excellent to give to friends and family members, so that not everything has to be thrown away in the end. Especially if you want to travel in the classic way after the ceremony, they have still served a nice purpose for your loved ones – or you can agree directly on dried flower decoration.
Sources used: Reddit.com