As soon as mom leaves the room, the world ends. The familiar babysitter can no longer calm the little one down. Every morning in the day care center there are tearful farewell scenes (of mom and child!). Separation anxiety and strangers are stress. For children and parents. What helps? Patience and a little background knowledge. Have a look here.
In her book “Strangers, Clamps, Separation Anxiety”, the author Elizabeth Pantley explains about separation fears in children, but also about separation problems among parents. Mothers and fathers will find many exercises in this book to practice separation with the child, to strengthen their child and to deal consciously with their own separation anxiety.
Strangeness is common in children as young as 8 months. According to the author, the high phase of strangling is between the 12th and 18th month of life. But did you know that children are strangers from time to time, even at the age of seven or eight?
Sometimes it is not easy to distinguish, is my child strangling or is it shyness, shame or worry from the child? In the following list from her book you can check for yourself whether your child is strangers.
- It cries as soon as a parent is out of sight.
- Your child is extremely affectionate.
- One parent prefers all other people.
- It falls back into previous behaviors (such as sucking thumbs, wetting, baby talk).
- His fear evaporates as soon as the parents are back.
- At night it wakes up regularly and calls for parents.
- They don't want to part with their parents at night or for a nap.
- They are afraid of family and friends they don't see regularly.
By Elizabeth Pantley
ISBN: 9783432100456
Published by TRIAS Verlag
This article originally appeared on Eltern.de.