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Those who say "yes" in these places have the highest risk of divorce
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What role does it play for the success of a marriage, how and where you proposed the marriage at the beginning? Well, as one study suggests, surprisingly not a very small one …
The marriage proposal is very important for most people – not only because it de facto decides whether we will spend the future as a married couple or not. It should be the perfect moment as possible, filled with the most beautiful and strongest emotions, which then ideally come up every time we remember back and us with our love and our "yes!" from then confirm.
In this respect, it is all too understandable that most applicants go to great lengths to make this all-important moment something very special – and that some associate it with a romantic journey. However, the following study suggests that marriages decided in certain places are not under a super good star …
Interviewed 3,500 divorcees
For the study commissioned by the heating company Stelrad, almost 3,500 people were surveyed who had two things in common: They were all engaged on a trip abroad, but have since divorced their partner. One wanted to know about them now:
- WHERE was the application made then?
Lo and behold: 23 percent of those questioned said "yes" in Paris, the supposed city of love or the city of supposed love.
In this survey, the second place of the most ominous places for a marriage proposal was cold, but beautiful Iceland: 18 percent of the test subjects had promised themselves eternal love there before their feelings for one another froze at some point. 14 percent and thus the third most failed marriages were decided in New York. The Big Apple does not seem to be a guarantee of success for love either.
Those surveyed rarely mentioned Tulum in Mexico, Buenos Aires in Argentina and Santorini in Greece. Only one to two percent of the divorced named these places as the origin of their marriage.
Rethink application plans?
As exciting as the results of this survey may be, they are certainly not a reason to worry if you've got engaged in Paris or New York, or to let yourself be influenced when planning your own marriage proposal. After all, these numbers do not tell us how many happy, lifelong marriages were concluded in the named places. For example, in a survey of married couples who got engaged abroad, 60 percent named Paris as the place of application. Probably far more people get engaged in the City of Love or the Big Apple than in Tulum or Santorini, so it is hardly surprising that the former were mentioned more often in this survey.
What we can certainly see from the study: Even the perfect proposal in the most romantic setting in the world is apparently no guarantee of a lifelong marriage. So, conversely, maybe we don't need to drive ourselves so crazy if our own engagement turned out differently than in a Disney movie.