Tantra – 9 Fragen, 9 Antworten

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Wild orgies, love and sexual enlightenment? Few people can say exactly what Tantra actually is. We asked an expert and got 9 tantric answers.

What is Tantra? We asked the Deputy Chair of the Tantra Massage Association in Germany. Smita Birgit Stehle’s answers have destroyed so many myths about Tantrism and the practices of the Tantrics – but also created a new spiritual space for sensual fantasies! 

gettotext.com: What does Tantra mean for you? 

Smita Birgit Stehle: For me Tantra is a life wisdom, an inner attitude. How I see myself and how I approach other people. 

gettotext.com: A life wisdom? Is not it about sex?

Smita Birgit Stehle: It’s about getting to know yourself. To follow the impulses of the body. What do I want to eat? How do I want to take care of myself? And of course, about what makes me feel like it. To touch yourself. The others are unimportant for now. In order to broaden your own sexuality, you can also get in touch with others later. But “with others” does not necessarily mean only with men. 

gettotext.com: So it does not always turn out for sex?

Smita Birgit Stehle: What is sex? In Tantra, this does not necessarily mean unification. It’s about pleasure. You do not only experience that when you are united. It can be incredibly enjoyable to touch someone’s foot, if you do that with a lot of attention. Or to stroke the back. Or a massage. Or kissing. It is also possible to kiss with pleasure without touching, and yet the whole body shakes. 

gettotext.com: How can I get to know Tantra?

Smita Birgit Stehle: There are Tantra seminars – you can visit them individually or as a couple. There are pleasurable experiences – as just described – tried. Or you go to a tantra massage. Here the whole body is touched, caressed and sensitized. The recipient just picks up and gives nothing back to be completely with the attention. But this ritual is not just about touch, it comes to sensual elements . The masseuse, for example, works with hot rags so that the heat penetrates the body. Or springs are used. The intimate massage for the woman, the so-called Yoni massage, also includes the vagina, Labia, clitoris are massaged. Depending on how far you want to go. This can lead to orgasm, but it does not have to. Much more important is the experience with your own body and your own desire. 

gettotext.com: And who is going to Tantra? 

Smita Birgit Stehle: People who want to expand their sensual, sexual framework. Those who want to do something for themselves, want to continue. Broaden your horizons. Incidentally, the proportion of men and women is very balanced. 

gettotext.com: Does Tantra also help with sexual problems?

Smita Birgit Stehle: Many have problems because they have had bad experiences. They can not accept themselves because they do not find themselves good enough or beautiful. Such a thing can be resolved by tantra, because you learn to understand yourself better. 

gettotext.com: How does a Tantra experience change a relationship? 

Smita Birgit Stehle: Lust is not limited to the partner. When I touch or sensually touch someone else, it does not necessarily mean that I am leaving or separating from my partner. The pleasure experience is somewhat disconnected from the relationship. Faithfulness does not mean: Where do I go with my lust? But where do I go with my heart? One feels pleasure not only through union.

gettotext.com: How do I find good Tantra massages or Tantra seminars? 

Smita Birgit Stehle: Tantra massages can be obtained from the Tantra Massage Association . For Tantra seminars there is no such union. Since I would rely on recommendations from friends or decide from the gut. 

gettotext.com: How Expensive is a Tantra Massage? 

Smita Birgit Stehle: One and a half hours cost from 140 euros, two hours from 180 euros.

Further information on the emergence of Tantras and its importance in Hinduism and Indian culture can be found in our article Tantra Yoga .