With "He just doesn't like you!: Stay relaxed and sort out the wrong men faster", Greg Behrendt landed a bestseller that was even made into a film in Hollywood a few years ago. Now he is following up with his wife with the book "How To Keep Your Marriage From Sucking: The keys to keep your wedlock out of deadlock" (which will unfortunately only be available in English from November 29th, 2018). As usual, the couple presents a few rules against marital misconduct, which should keep the relationship fresh. What is marital misconduct? For example, the expectation that the partner has to straighten their own chaos again and again.
Never look for his keys
Greg Behrendt and his wife Amiira advise: Never play mother or father, because this will go wrong in the long run. Best example: the key search. If HE fundamentally misplaces his keys and basically has to search for YOU, a completely logical spiral starts. At some point she becomes very annoyed, and not just in the key search moments. That starts with the dreamy look, which is linked to bad memories of panicked searches. The end of the song: he feels like a patronized child, she feels responsible for his misfortunes. No, these are not the best conditions for a good marriage at eye level. For neither of them.
What you can do wrong
In the further course of the book, it will be made clear to couples in an entertaining way what is not possible in living together. According to Greg and Amiira, a bad marriage proposal doesn't work because big gestures count. Cleaning up the other's laundry, also a big faux pas. What is also not a good thing: Stress out your partner with rituals that you know (and love) from before. UFF. There are a lot of pitfalls lurking there.
Our conclusion:
How nice of Amiira and Greg to tell us about their great marriage. Real great ideas. We also have a few tips. For example, just look for the keys when your sweetheart misplaces them. Because that's really nice. The principle is called goodness. And we believe that saved many marriages.