Finally, a new approach to being overweight and losing weight! And this is by no means just another diet or a litany of purely dietary tips. In a really fascinating work, "The thoughts that make you lose weight" (edition Albin Michel), Eudes Séméria clinical psychologist explains how the analysis of our personality and the exploration of the unconscious injunctions which condition us can allow us to take back the power on our body. Because it is not by counting the calories at each meal, nor by weighing everything to the nearest gram or by focusing on our ideal weight that we will be able to lose weight … But it is by first being in agreement with ourselves, our actions and our commitments. Psychic jargon? No, because in his work, this expert knows how to make the most complex concepts accessible thanks to a series of concrete cases and examples, and to hold the reader's attention thanks to quotes from studies which show that certain thoughts or attitudes can make us lose weight or, on the contrary, put on weight. Exciting, we repeat it to you!
The secret of thin: cooking!
Women in search of slimness have everything to gain from getting into the kitchen. It's better for your health, for the wallet and for weight loss! This makes it possible to control the amounts of sugar, fat… that we know. But it's also proof of commitment, psychologically speaking. A new idea that is easy to follow, super effective and scientifically proven! According to a study cited by Eudes Sémérias, women who are more likely to have a balanced weight are those who cook. Explanation of the expert: "When you acquire skills and involve yourself in the preparation of your diet, you increase your sense of personal efficiency. We thus have the feeling of better mastering events and better controlling oneself.".
To lose weight, you must first gain autonomy
We often hear that in order to achieve your goal, lose weight or quit smoking, you have to take charge. It is a simplistic way of seeing things, and above all it makes you feel guilty. So, we stop beating our ass and manhandling our body and head with regimes that are useless and that lead us to think that we are zero. According to Eudes Sémérias, two aspects of the personality seem also important in the capacity to regulate its food: benevolence towards oneself and the capacity to take into account its internal experiences, without judging them. "People who feel little guilt or who know how to put their differences into perspective are less likely to crack or overeat. They would have a better awareness of what is best for their health. In addition, it is primarily in themselves that they base their decision to lose weight and not only to satisfy the demands of a third party, doctor or otherwise. They thus show themselves to be more autonomous ".
Weight loss: willpower alone is not enough
To lose weight, relying on willpower alone is not enough. Here is a speech that changes! Because we are tired of hearing that if we can not lose weight, it is because we lack motivation, in short that we are weak, that we do not have a winning mind and that it's our fault. It's double the penalty! We suffer both because we fail to achieve our goal and because our efforts are not paying off. "Willpower is wrongly valued and put forward in the regulation of diet, believes Eudes Sémérias. All plan sponsors say that the most important thing is to be motivated, to show determination. It is a mistake. It would even be counterproductive. Research has shown that people who believe they can rely on their willpower to resist temptations crack more easily than those who are more humble and realistic from the start".
Go on a diet: haste, a bad advisor
"When we seek to change or improve our diet, we spontaneously think of "going on a diet", Eudes Séméria analysis, most specialists invite us to start tomorrow. But this is a mistake. "This expert invites us to question this" rush "."No one can turn their eating habits upside down overnight without suffering". Before thinking about weight loss, you have to gradually prepare yourself for a new way of acting, from which a new way of eating will emerge. In practice, you have to proceed step by step, establish different benchmarks, do your shopping differently. , adopt certain reflexes on a daily basis… In short, take steps to reconnect with the freedom to eat as you wish, in line with what makes us feel good. "The changes undertaken will only have an effect if we commit to the very long term, assures Eudes Séméria, the challenge being to acquire a responsible and sustainable operation and in principle definitive".
The new key to slimming: be flexible
To conclude, Eudes Sémérias explains that "lPeople who show psychological flexibility lose weight more easily than others and are less likely to gain it. A person with good flexibility is able to observe themselves and take a step back from their feelings and events. She will also think that it is her own actions that determine what happens to her and not chance or the outsideChanging a few habits is enough to initiate a change and it will spontaneously spill over into other habits through a “domino effect.” A study has shown that changes having the greatest “domino effect” on diet and health are the fact of reducing the time spent in front of the screens, in particular during the meal, and that of consuming more fruits and vegetables.
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