Do you feel like you're not having a good time with your significant other? The 2-2-2 rule may well become the miracle solution! To maintain the passion within the couple, it would be enough to practice this method straight from the United States. Its principle is as easy as pie.
While routine brings a sense of security in a relationship, it can also lead to boredom and drown passion. Yep, romance is alive! The purpose of this "code of conduct" is that everyday life can never really creep in. It would keep your relationship fresh and exciting – and, by the way, bring you closer.
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What is the 2-2-2 rule?
Responding to the pseudonym of ckernan2, an American Internet user ensures on the Reddit platform that he knows the miracle recipe for making your relationship last by instilling a good dose of romance on a regular basis. According to him, to keep the flame of the first days alive, it would be enough to apply the 2-2-2 rule. But in reality, what does it look like?
Lovers go out every two weeks, organize a weekend every two months and go on trips (only as a couple) twice a year. Of course, this is a minimum. If you have the time and the finances to move more, you can! However, if there is one thing you should avoid at all costs, it's inviting friends or family. The important thing is to get together and reconnect with each other.
To add some extra zing to your relationship, all you need to do is make some space on the calendar. It is best to plan dates firmly and to mark them with a big heart. According to the American internet user (and self-appointed love expert), this method has worked well for him, as he claims to have managed to maintain the "honeymoon" phase with his other half after years. We all envy him.
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How to apply this rule to the letter?
Even if the rule itself is not revolutionary, sometimes life decides otherwise. Indeed, a face to face moment on a regular date can require a lot of organization. First of all, both parties have to be available, which can be complicated. And so often friends or family want to hang out, the outing should remain a romantic date (after all, the "2's" in the rule also symbolize the couple). If you have children, try to babysit them for at least one evening. For longer excursions, count on grandparents or your sister, but resist the call to bring them with you.
What to do every two weeks?
The first “2” in the 2-2-2 rule refers to a romantic date every 14 days. It can be dinner in a good, well-dressed restaurant, but that's not all. See this outing as a first date, where would you go to impress your other half? Take him / her to a special place, where the two of you will be together for an evening.
Try a place that has special meaning. Why not go to that Italian restaurant where you had your first date? Besides having a good time with your partner, this fortnightly outing has another advantage: you will no longer see him / her just in sweatpants, but sexy and stylish.
What to do every two months?
A weekend just for you – without the stress of shopping, housework and other obligations. So you will have time for in-depth discussions: what is your partner's concern at the moment? How do you feel within the couple? Are you going in the same direction or are you breaking up a bit? This closeness will give you the opportunity to start a real conversation. Do not see this weekend as wasted time, on the contrary.
If you need a change of scenery, you can even treat yourself to a city break, a spa break, or a hike. The possibilities remain endless. Also take the time to try something that you usually don't dare to do. Why not experience a sexual practice that you have never tried? New joint experiences can become very exciting and stimulating!
What to do every two years?
According to the 2-2-2 rule, you should take some vacation with your partner. You will then spend romantic and passionate days without family or friends. And while it may get tempting to share your trip on your Instagram feed, it might be best to just leave your cell phone turned off. This will allow you to enjoy these moments just for two, and create memories that are unique to you. Ideal for restoring complicity in your relationship!
If you still want to capture beautiful sunsets or have a romantic breakfast in bed, take a camera with you, the old fashioned way. So, you can review the photos of your getaway once you get home, and finally choose the best photos for social networks.
What about the 2-2-2 rule as a quick fix?
The phrase "quick fix" sounds like an exaggeration, but it's true that spending time just for two on a regular basis would reconnect. However, do not see this rule – which should no longer be seen as a method – as an obligation. It is up to you and your partner to decide whether to do one-on-one activities that could help resuscitate your first emotions. And even if you don't believe it, it doesn't hurt to try (well almost!).
Article written from a brief by Caroline Michel