The post-partum, everyone experiences it in their own way. This is a delicate, but very important step. A doula and mother posted a very nice post about how to handle this time on Instagram. Self-acceptance, the relationship to the body …
The postpartum period is the period from childbirth until your period returns. It’s quite a special time. Some mothers experience it well, others not at all. We recall that in both cases, this is normal. Everyone experiences things differently, and no one has to compare another's experience to their own. To each his own feelings, and his vision of himself.
On Instagram, a doula – a woman who accompanies and supports a pregnant woman and her entourage before, during and after childbirth, but who has not graduated unlike a midwife – named Uma, shared a wonderful postpartum message, and self-appreciation.
Never compare yourself
No mother experiences childbirth the same way as another. It is therefore impossible to judge a postpartum, or to compare it. “Slow down is a chapter on the opposition between being and doing. Be patient and compassionate with yourself, you too are a mothering infant. Take it one day at a time, and in that softening you will find the strength to be vulnerable enough to seek help and honor your healing. Do your best not to qualify or compare your experience with that of another. Discover your intuition and don't be too rigid with advice and opinions that don't seem right to you”Wrote the doula in the caption of her post.
“Experiment and seek support, but stay away from rigid routines, things will change as regularly as the tides. Celebrate small victories and stay curious despite the obstacles. Remember … you will have to learn to adapt, adapt and adapt again”.
Be proud of yourself
“Motherhood asks you to lean on a love like no other, while embracing the bittersweet and inevitable reality of letting go. It is opening your eyes to absolute happiness that is not found in your appearance or in what you accomplish. It is to inspire you to experiment and seek until you find your own path. It asks you to foster presence amidst chaos and confusion, and move beyond old belief systems that measure your worth and happiness by what you accomplish or gain.", can we read. The young woman reminds us here that motherhood is also to discover oneself, beyond appearance. By giving birth to a child, our life changes completely. Habits, vision of things, priorities… It's a good way to meet up, to learn who we are. No matter the stretch marks and the swollen belly (it is NORMAL), it is not what makes your value nor as a woman, nor as a mother.
“Beyond transformation and integration, and between exhaustion and exhilaration, there is your Higher Self waiting to guide you from this space of stillness and silence. Here, you will be reminded that there is no going back, but only going back, that this little person has come to serve you as your greatest teacher, and that your state of consciousness will dictate this whole journey. This surreal time, which seems eternal but eludes you, is the best opportunity you have to wake up and learn to love yourself more”. Don't worry, you'll know what to do! Motherhood is a chance to learn to love yourself differently. This is a whole new stage in your life.
Thanks to @umamother for his lovely post.