For as long as she can remember, Valérie Bodocco has always liked to make her existence an adventure full of hoaxes and little bravado: calling the night watchman of the French Academy to be whispered the definition of a complicated word, passing the CRS roadblocks during Xi Jinping’s state visit to Paris… “The “what the fuck” governs my whole life, recognizes this 40-year-old Parisian entrepreneur, who manages a gym. The world is so civilized that doing things out of the ordinary immediately brings a little magic. » In November 2022, the young woman set herself a sentimental challenge: to marry herself. In other words – if we slightly rewrite article 212 of the civil code – “personally” owe respect, loyalty, help, assistance. “I always wanted to celebrate my wedding, but I never wanted to marry someone. It seems to me that an official contract can only alter love. In my opinion, only a commitment made every morning has value”she explains, in a form of radical romanticism.
Following her momentum, Valérie Bodocco printed invitation cards intended to celebrate “the beginning of Val & Rie’s new life together”, reserved the charming Saint-Nicolas chapel, in Rennemoulin, in Yvelines, bordered by the Ru de Gally and fields as far as the eye can see, hired two professional photographers, planned three bottles of wine per person, had the witnesses’ speeches written by ChatGPT and prepared a tribute to his parents and… to masturbation. “The bride and groom often end up being dispossessed of their ceremony because of the families who interfere, she describes. But there, since it’s me who finances it, I threw out everything I didn’t like – the husband, the conventions, the table plans – and I kept the party, the friends and the dress. »
Popularized by Carrie Bradshaw in the series Sex and the City, in 2003, single marriage, difficult to count since it is not recognized by law, is becoming more and more present in pop culture and the media. In 2015, Stromae put the ring on his finger in a video for the magazine Time, “because I love myself too much”, he joked. On May 31, the television channel CNN presented the portrait of four American women, aged 30 to 77, who entered into sologamy. “A healthy form of narcissism”, commented John Amodeo, psychologist, specializing in couples therapy. Statement “the ability to be happy on your own”as experienced by the very first self-married woman, Linda Baker – who organized her ceremony in December 1993 in a bar in Santa Monica, California – marriage to oneself remains more popular among women.
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