Is your man not very talkative? Here are 10 actions that show he’s in love with you, although he has trouble expressing it verbally.
Whether it’s the beginnings of a love affair or a long-term relationship, we can be prey to doubts in love. Singles look for certain qualities in their life partner (here are the 10 essential ones according to a psychologist). Young women from Generation Z would also be increasingly attracted to what we call Golden Retriever Boys (the antithesis of the toxic ideas conveyed about the couple by films). But the questions aren’t the same once you’ve found your boyfriend.
If the latter has difficulty expressing his feelings (as would be the case for many men), here are the actions that show that he is in love. The journalist of Hack Spirit Kiran Athar listed 10, which she identified over the years by observing her husband, stingy with “big words” but accustomed to meaningful actions.
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Signs that don’t show in your partner
- 1. He makes a constant effort to be part of your life
Does your partner send you messages during the day? Is he there when you need him? This turns out to be much more important than constantly telling you that he loves you and it shows that he is thinking about you. As nice as it is to hear the words “I love you,” showing love carries more weight than saying it.
- 2. He really listens to you when you speak
You can quickly get caught up in your smartphone at home or in a restaurant. If your boyfriend listens attentively when you speak, then he cares about you. Positive signs to note: removing distractions like the phone or television when you speak, not interrupting yourself, showing interest in what you are saying and asking questions. Being patient when you let loose on an unpleasant co-worker or holding back the brand of your favorite chocolate is his way of showing you that he loves you.
- 3. He shows patience and understanding
Knowing how to be patient when you are irritable (especially during certain times of the month) is also a very good sign. It’s not about constantly keeping your cool but about remaining present for the other person. He can also get to know you and anticipate your mood swings or understand your strange habits. A hot water bottle ready for your period, the offer of a massage, taking a break… Real proofs of love!
- 4. He is willing to compromise and sometimes sacrifices his own needs
No, you don’t have to sacrifice EVERYTHING for someone else to love them. You have to set limits but also find compromise, achieve balance and show respect. If your partner happens to make sacrifices, this indicates the depth of his feelings towards you.
- 5. He respects your personal boundaries and space
Sometimes we need time for ourselves. Rather than getting offended when you want to isolate yourself and questioning your motivations, your partner should understand your need for time and suggest that you get together when you are ready. A mark of respect and affection.
- 6. He shows affection through physical contact and small gestures
A man may find it more difficult to verbalize his love than to show it physically with a kiss greeting you, with a hand in yours on the street, or with a spontaneous hug. A language of love that is bodily. He may also give you sweet words on a post-it or give you small gifts to show his affection.
- 7. He often shows a protective instinct
Being protective is not being jealous. It’s making sure you get home safely after an outing, taking care of yourself when you’re sick, or defending yourself in a difficult situation. These things are not automatic in a man who doesn’t love a woman very much.
- 8. He includes you in various aspects of his life
Far from making plans without you, your partner asks you to join him at a dinner at his grandmother’s house or to accompany you to your niece’s dance recital. These are demonstrations of the fact that he includes you in his life.
- 9. He talks or makes plans for the future that include you
Moving from “I” to “we” is the mark of a transition to a serious relationship for your partner. Having a dog, traveling, changing cities… If his plans are with you, it’s because he loves you.
- 10. He is really happy when you succeed or achieve something
Being your biggest fan is a sign of love! If he’s happy for you, whatever your accomplishment, that’s positive. More excited than you, sharing the news with those around him, saying that he is proud of you… Much more eloquent actions than direct words regarding his love. So avoid reproaching him for not expressing it verbally, because you won’t change him and especially because he already does it through his actions. A true and respectful love to cherish!
Editor for Aufeminin since 2022, Charlotte is passionate about cinema, French and international, and a fortune reader. Curious about everything, she talks as much about personalities as…