These common phrases that you should avoid saying to your teenager

The WHO places adolescence between the ages of 10 and 19 and during this period your teenager may have what is called a teenage crisis. Note that it can even start before during this period called the “pre-adolescence”
The teenage crisis is defined as “the set of difficult disorders and behaviors that occur during the transition period between childhood and adulthood: mood swings, defiant attitude, opposition to parents, and excessive behavior.” It happens that this adolescent crisis is beyond you, and may it push you to the limit.
In all the families you may have already pronounced one of these sentences. To blackmail, as a sign of desperation or to try to make your teenager react, sometimes the words come out of your mouth on their own. Above all, don’t feel guilty, but here are the reasons why you should avoid saying these great classics of the teenage crisis!

“You are always on your phone”

Often teenagers take refuge in their telephone to keep in touch with their friends. And it’s not really their fault, a study conducted in Leicester explains that if children spend so much time on their phone, it’s because of anxiety about being disconnected. What seems logical to you is distressing for your teenager: when you leave social networks, the platforms continue to be fed and to generate information. They will therefore not be aware if something is happening on the Internet! Try another approach by suggesting a family discussion, or an activity to do together. It may take time, but he’ll figure it out eventually.

“You’re not going out like this”

Clothing is also part of teenage rebellion. And in order not to rush your teenager you can try either ignore these changes or take them lightly. Giving yourself a particular style also means expressing yourself, looking for yourself, finding yourself or not!

“It’s not a hotel here”

Many parents have already found themselves in this situation, you only see your teenager when eating and sleeping. During adolescence, children try to break ties and not spending time with you is one of them. Try not to phrase it as a rebuke so he doesn’t get riled up. Provocation is part of the teenage crisis but so is loneliness, try to respect these moments.

“You Can’t Be Trusted”

What could be worse when you entrust a task to your teenager and that he does not do it or does it badly! The nervousness is justified but it is already a period when your child will greatly lack self-confidence. Even if he doesn’t come to seek that trust from you, try giving it to him every day.

“You exaggerate everything”

Emotions multiply during adolescence, whether it’s because of puberty and the many upheavals it brings or because of something else entirely. In any case, they are often on edge and even if it can be annoying, try to respect these emotions. You can also try to accompany him by talking with him, by setting up time for exchanges for two only.

“Your friends are a bad influence on you”

It’s hard to accept but the more you tell her, the longer he will stay with these people. Realizing for yourself is also learning from your mistakes, and sometimes that can be good. He will confide in you more easily if he realizes on his own that these are not good people for him.

“I’m going to send you to boarding school”

The ultimate solution for all parents: boarding school (but the word pension has more effect). But if your teenager has to end up in boarding school one day for any reason, it would be a shame if he was afraid of it! With this sentence you show that the pension is the ultimate punishment but it can also be a great experience for both you and him, if he doesn’t go there with the ball in his stomach.

Parenting writer

Zoé is on a work-study program, she joined the aufeminin team in September 2022, she writes for the parenting section. Committed and curious, Zoé likes to write to advance…