Red flags!
If he says these sentences to you – you just don't go together
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Every relationship works in its own way and the same goes for communication. But there are some things you should never have to hear from your partner.
We all go wrong with the tone and say things that we regret afterwards – also to people we love. However, if you hear these types of sentences from your partner, you should set the alarm bells ringing. Because then it looks like something important and indispensable for a healthy relationship is missing: RESPECT!
"You can be happy that I'm with you."
Seriously? No, no, no, we should never be persuaded of that. Anyone who says something like this – and means it seriously – is evidently subject to the mistaken belief that there are "better" and "worse" people. Such people should rather go into therapy or attend a philosophy seminar before making themselves available for a relationship. In addition: A partnership should always be good for both parties. If either of them feels differently, the relationship makes little sense.
"Just pretend you have a sense of humor in front of my friends."
Sure: it may be that your partner has problems of his own and thinks he has to distinguish himself in front of his friends. But if he asks you to pretend and doesn't stand by you in front of others, that's not a good sign. If he loves you, he accepts you with all your qualities – and tends to show off with you in front of his friends.
"I wouldn't even get up in the morning for your salary."
Your career, your business! If your partner doesn't respect your career choices or does your job badly, your relationship will not be a lucky star. Large wage differences in particular can lead to tensions and conflicts in partnerships, but you should never allow yourself to be devalued by him or your profession.
"If I have to endure your parents again, I'll have one first."
Admittedly, in-laws are a difficult topic in many relationships. If he gets along well with your parents and siblings, that's fine – but it's not a must. However, he should respect and support YOUR relationship with your parents and siblings if they are important to you. Your family has shaped you and is part of your life. Those who badmouth and dislike your family are shooting at a part of you – and your partner should respect your past.
"You have really small breasts for your figure."
Regardless of whether it concerns legs, buttocks, nose, hair color or height – body shaming is a no-go, especially in relationships. Or would you ever let a Facebook troll into your bed? There you are! If your partner loves you, they don't trample your ego by making fun of your figure. A relationship should strengthen our self-worth, not destroy it!
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