This advice from a self-defense coach to apply to every first meeting

What if you could identify how dangerous your date was in seconds? An American self-defense coach has exactly the right technique to ensure your safety.

Going on a first date, despite the romantic dimension, is a risk-taking. So much so that an American self-defense coach shares with all her students the same practical advice to protect themselves. This is a very simple exercise to find out if the person in front of you is toxic or even dangerous.

It’s on Tik Tok, in a video viewed nearly 3 million times that the Canadian Mollie Trainor shared this tool which is worth gold and which she received during a self-defense course in New York.

“The advice she gave me is to find an excuse to say no during the date. The goal is to see how he reacts when you deny him something.” And the Tik Tokeuse to add: “You don’t have to be disrespectful, it can be a very small trick. Find a moment during the date, in public, and say no. Then analyze her reaction.”

A violent response to a simple “no”

The self-defense coach cited has seen the results of this practice very closely. “His daughter used this method one day and didn’t like the reaction to her date at all. Later that evening he tried to attack her in the restaurant’s bathroom.” According to the coach, an individual who reacts badly to a refusal should be avoided for his own safety.

Mollie Trainor then recalls an anecdote that happened to her in the metro and where this method made perfect sense. “I was moving from apartment to apartment in New York and had to carry a huge suitcase. At a station, a stranger stopped me to offer to help me. I said ‘No thanks, it’s okay. . ‘” The man would then have spent 2 minutes insisting heavily before uttering the words that must always be wary according to Mollie: “I’m not a weird guy.” The young woman then managed to make him leave but after long minutes of argument, under the eyes of passers-by.

If the refusal in public is already difficult to manage on your date, things will be even more complicated in private, according to the logic of the coach in self-defense.

On Tik Tok, Internet users have praised this advice, in particular LolaWanted who writes very rightly: “It’s amazing advice, especially since we tend to want to please and say yes to everything on the first date.”

Self-defense therefore begins as soon as you leave your home and not once the attack has taken place.

The viral video on Tik Tok:

Dan Hastings

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