The hickey isn’t just for carefree teenagers This summer 2021, it’s making a comeback and could spice up your sexuality.
You don’t have to be in high school to be able to give your other half a hickey. Ah, choose a part of your partner’s body and place your lips, mad with passion, on his skin … Now take a deep breath and inhale sensually to multiply the sensations. Thus, your love will tint the carnal envelope of your beloved for a few days.
But take it easy anyway: the hickey can become dangerous, so control yourself. In fact, by inhaling, you blow up the recipient’s blood vessels and this leads to a bruise. And if you exert too much pressure, your friend may risk … death.
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Intercultural behaviors
But where does this tradition of the hickey come from? First of all, you should know that there are several ways to express your feelings. Some use the “kiss-mouth”, but it is not the only one “Kiss-like behavior”, according to The expression of emotions in humans and animals by Charles Darwin. Indeed, the always very well informed site BuzzFeed, who predicts his return for the summer of 2021, mentions other physical contacts of the same kind, such as “Licking, patting another person’s skin” or, “To press his nose on the cheek of another person”.
Sheril Kirshenbaum, author of The Science of Kissing, explains to BuzzFeed than “These behaviors adjacent to the kiss are universal” and start very early in life. She adds that “Our first experiences with love and security usually involve lip pressure and stimulation through behaviors that mimic kissing, such as breastfeeding or bottle-feeding”. As a result, this action is associated with positive emotions and this would explain why the hickey is common in adolescence. And as the lips are “The most exposed erogenous zone of the body”, this positivity will accompany us throughout our life and in different ways.
Lips promote oxytocin production
In contact with other erogenous parts of the body, such as the thighs or the neck, the sensations multiply and you create oxytocin, more commonly known as the “love hormone”. It serves to establish and preserve a special bond between two people by producing “A feeling of positivity associated with the other person”, according to BuzzFeed. And dopamine, which is responsible for making you feel envy and desire, also invites itself.
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However, as the site points out, a hickey is above all sexual and much less love. Indeed, the hickey “It is in a way a way of marking a territory” or at least, to remember a moment of shared pleasure. Even if we try to hide the marks from the eyes of the world.
Moreover, we must not forget the consent. Although the passion drives you, the other does not necessarily feel the desire that others perceive these sensual marks. Sarah Siddiqui, a Toronto-based psychotherapist tells BuzzFeed that “it’s something to negotiate”. She adds that you have to watch out for the pain because not everyone can handle it to the same degree.
Lea Lecuyer
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