Days, if not weeks after the birth of their baby, many moms have the impression to hear their baby cry while silence reigns in their house … A London influencer, “Chessie King”, s’ is expressed about the “ghost cry” on the social network Instagram.
At birth and in the first months of life, all babies cry, sometimes they even cry a lot! And even they “cry” more than “cry” since they have a well-toned cry and do not have any tears or sobs… It is indeed their main means of communication to call you or transmit their information to you. emotions and there is no need to worry. However, some new moms hear baby cries and cries all the time even when the newborn is calm or asleep. It is then a question of phantom crying.
On October 19, a London influencer posted an instagram post where we can see a snapshot of her and her infant. In the description, she shares her experience of “phantom crying”. Phantom crying is a real thing, even when the crying doesn’t really happen. “It has been 5 days since you washed your hair, you submerge yourself in the shower and 23 seconds later you hear your baby cry … you turn off the water and put your soaked head through the door to don ‘t hear nothing but silence …”She writes. For the first few weeks, she heard her daughter Rae cry just as she drank water. She explains that even the sound of the water strongly resembled her crying in her ears. “JI heard her when I brushed my hair, the sound of the bristles sounded like her scream. ” she adds.
An experience lived by many mothers
A lot of women have already experienced this but very few talk about it. In fact, influencer Chessie King says she felt extremely lonely because she didn’t dare talk about it, even to her closest friends. “Saying it out loud sounded weird to me and I held back from trying to explain it to my friends for weeks, but once I did, many of them told me that they had experienced the same thing in the first weeks of motherhood”Declares the young mother.
According to Chessie King, it is thanks to the support and compassion of those close to him that things have managed to calm down after 4 weeks of “hell”. “The support they gave me was invaluable and I quickly learned thata pair of hands to help and a pair of ears to listen are two of the most wonderful gifts you can give a new mom.”. She insists a lot on being well supported and talking about it. For her, that would really be the miracle solution to this problem of “ghost cries”. According to her, if this happens to you, we absolutely have to talk about it.
Phantom movements
The cries and the cries of the baby are not the only ones that can be categorized as “ghost” … In young mothers, the “syndrome” of phantom movements is very widespread. Months, if not years after the birth of their baby, moms say they still feel like they are moving. Many women report feeling movements in their tummies, as if their baby is moving, long after giving birth or after losing it. Experts are putting forward avenues to explain this phenomenon. Asked by Healthline, American obstetrician-gynecologist Tiffany Woodus explains that moms really feel like a baby is moving in their tummy. “It is difficult to determine whether these sensations are normal or not, because we do not have a clear understanding of what they are and what causes them,” she says. It is true that no study has been carried out to find an explanation for them, but that does not prevent the experts from having hypotheses.
Other experts believe that moms, who have felt their babies move during their pregnancy, might mistake symptoms of endometriosis, uterine contractions, gas, or even bowel irritation for fetal movement. Kecia Gaither also believes that these “ghost movements” should not be neglected since they could, in some cases, be a sign that the mother is suffering from depression or anxiety.
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How to calm the crying?
During the first four months, it is best if the response to your newborn baby’s crying is quick. Do not hesitate to take your baby in your arms, he needs it, unless he is crying while sleeping. In this case, do not wake him up, it is a normal phase of so-called “restless” sleep. It’s first the contact and the rocking that calms a child, the warmth of his mother’s body, his voice . If he is not hungry, he may just need this Hug. It may also be that he suffers from small digestive disorders, stomach aches are common in infants. Lay your child face down on your forearm and your forearm on your knees. If his crying stops, it may be a sign that your little one is having a stomach ache. Talk to your doctor, he will find a solution to relieve it.
As a reminder : The shaken baby syndrome is increasingly present. If you are fed up with your baby’s crying and think that you are going to break down, just one thing to do: put baby in his bed where he will be safe. Move away to breathe and calm down. Ideally, ask for help so that someone takes over.
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